AIBU to think this was rather rude?

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My ex left his phone behind when we attended an appointment for DD.

When I managed to contact him about half an hour later once he'd got home - I suggested that he pick it up from mine about an hour later.

His reply was to ask whether I was travelling by bus!

I took that to mean he would have expected me to be home sooner - AIBU to think that next time, I shouldn't try to help and leave his phone to be nicked?

I agree with natasha that is what it sounds like.

Nah - he'd already agreed to pick it up from mine - it was when I said id be home in an hour that he asked about my mode of transport!

Sounds like he wanted to know when you'd be home so he could pick it up.

Sounds like he was just making a light-hearted joke to me. I'm stunned that anyone would take offence at such a comment!

I agree, it sounds like a light hearted joke. Sort of thing DH would say to me

Must be me then - it came across as a not-so-subtle dig on his part because he couldn't have his phone back sooner - but I'm probably oversensitive given our history!

I was BU when I told him how I was getting home was none of his business, then!

based on OP, yabu. Based on last post possibly not. Can't tell with a partial drip feed.

I din't say anything earlier because I don't know any of the history, or whether he is particularly snotty about bus users, but I think your reply was OK either way.

No drip feed intended - we don't get on, but that's not unusual with an ex, is it?

We both attended DDs appointment (he brought her along as she's with him this week but she wanted me there)
When he left, he left his phone behind.

I hung around for a while in case he came back for it, tried calling DDs phone (no answer) and eventually got through to him at home.
Told him I was still in town A, but suggested he pick it up from me at home in town B as its closer to his house in town C.
He agreed, asked what time - I said an hour, he said 'are you on the bus, then?'

Seemed like a bit of a dig to me, but as I said - he's not my favourite person, so I might be looking for negatives where there aren't any

But we need to know, were you on the bus? Or was he suggesting your driving is over-cautious because he is a dick behind the wheel himself ?

Nope - not on the bus

I had planned to pop in to a couple of shops on the way home, though - and didn't want to have to rush back.

I was really good too - I didn't snoop through his phone despite the temptation!

Well done for not snooping!

It's probably one of those comments that is best ignored rather than mulled over and searched for hidden meaning tbh.

I have listened to men meeting for the first time ever, to then talk about where they parked...how they got there, which roads they took etc and so on. I think men just have a thing for logistics. I bet if you'd let him continue he's have asked which one and what route it was taking.