I'm not really going to be just need to vent and see if anyone else thinks she's being as unreasonable as I do.
She's getting married a 3 hour drive away and ever since she announced this it's been one thing after another. I'm a bridesmaid and my ds is a page boy.
First thing she announced was that we would have to all come down to the village where she's getting wed for almost a week. Reason being the rehearsals are to be 4 days before the wedding (she needed this because she has other things e.g a birthday party in between) and she'll need help preparing etc. It wouldn't really make sense to do the drive back and fourth so it's meant a week off work and paying for travel and accommodation.
Next thing she did was told me she wants me to grow my ds hair for the wedding as it's 'disgusting' as it's too short. She had a hissy because my brother and sils baby was due around the time of the wedding and she wsn't happy that they'd planned this knowing that she was getting married.
Then there was the hen night's', she initially wanted 5. She asked myself and her best friend to organise this but after deciding that her friend ideas were too chavvy and I was being too particular about leaving ds or going too far away she booked a weekend away which was over £100 this caused a row as I said I wasn't too sure if I could afford it or if I'd have anyone to look after my ds for a whole weekend. She started demanding to know what I'm spending my money on and questioning my costing for everything such as telling me I could buy my ds whole school uniform plus shoes for £12. I did work it all out and go and then ended up having a bump in my car driving everyone there because my windows were all steamed up and everyone was moaning at me not to open the windows as they were getting wet and not to demist the windows as they were too hot, direction giving was poor 'oh no sorry you were supposed to go left there'. The other driver left the scene so I am left with a bill to get my car repaired.
We've had dress fittings (18 miles away), hair trails etc almost every other weekend which has meant that I've missed nearly all of my ds football lessons I put my foot down and asked for the final fitting to be a later time so that I could make it to football to which she rolled her eyes and made some remark about everytihng revolving around me. But then the week later told me I'd have to meet her at 10.00 because she had to drop her sons girlfriend at work before the fitting meaning I'd still miss football! Then she changed her mind and said that actually we didn't need to do that then on the morning of the dress fitting I got a phonecall from her son saying she was too hungover and was throwing up, result of her 3rd hen night so couldn't go and I'd have to drive myself and other 3 bridemaids there. I said no way after last time as I wasn't confident driving somewhere I don't know where it is in my damaged car, brakelight was out wouldn't have chance to sort it, I'm a nervous driver at the best of times so everyone went huffy with me. In the end my dp agreed to take me in his van after he basically went mad saying that if her wedding was so important she wouldn't have got so drunk and we've done enough, sister and other bridesmaid got a lift sister stayed in car with a bucket on her lap for throwing up and then pulled a face when we hung the wrapped dress up in the back of the van it's a brand new van fitted with shelves nothing was really going to happen to the dress and said she'd better take it with her. I said to dp no way she'll probably forget to bring it to the wedding and expect me to drive back to get it!
I've also been asked to look after my two neices aged 3 and 4 for the week as it's looking like their parents now can't make it due to money. I've said no and I'm sure if they can't make it I'll never live it down. I just don't want to do this as my own son is handful enough and my dp isn't meeting me there until the wedding day so I'll be on my own plus it's a one bed hotel so will be squeeze enough I'll share with ds then ds will go in an airbed when dp comes.