to think he was really rude (or is it just my PMT?)

[Ithinkitsjustme]

We were invited to my nieces dedication yesterday, my husband is not a Christian but decided to come along with myself and all our children. After the "dedication bit" he walked out of the rest of the service leaving me with 5 children who all spent the rest of the service asking "Where's Daddy" and "if he can go why can't we", he didn't even offer to take the little one with him, just left. If I had twisted his arm to attend then I would have had more sympathy with him, but he volunteered and just walked out. AIBU to be annoyed.

Not wanting to drip feed, but I was brought up in a Christian home although I no longer got to church, and neither do my children, but my siblings do.

Unless he was suddenly overcome by something deeply spiritual or a bad case of food poisoning, he was really rude! Don't blame PMT here!

I think the Christian/church thing is entirely irrelevant, he agreed to go with you to an event - leaving you there is the same as leaving you at a fete - ie. he shouldn't as you expect to be doing it as a team.

He was rude dont blame your PMT he left you with all the children when he said he would go with you,

You left a lot of information.

Were you going to take the 5 children regardless if he came?
Were you expecting him to stay for the whole thing?
Would you have let all the children leave with him if he had offered?
Did he just unexpectedly get up and go home without saying anything to anyone?
Why did he leave?

It seems really weird to just walk out and leave, so I'm leaning towards he saw the part he came to see, and that was that. The rest doesn't mean anything to him as he is not Christian, so he left you to it.

Leave the bastard!

Mushroom, my PMT's not THAT bad!!
Paiviaso, yes I would have taken the children regardless, but I was expecting that if he came he would stay to the whole thing, it's not like he didn't know what was going to happen. I have no idea why he left, he just did, and then came back when we were all leaving. I don't know that I would have let all the kids leave but would have at least let the youngest go with him.

Did he misunderstand that he should stay for the whole ceremony? If not he was rude. My BIL is Jewish but at family christenings etc he stays for the whole thing, and if there was ever a Jewish event that my family went to, we'd be sure to find out ahead of time the correct etiquette (he's not really practicing though so there hasn't been anything).

Also rude to leave you with 5 children and assume you would mind them but that's another thread I think.

My friend's DH is not Catholic and at the first Mass they were at together, he asked her to nudge him at the correct places to stand, sit and kneel so that he wouldn't offend anyone, that's the polite way to do it.

Mind you she did her best to nudge him in the wrong places so that he would end up the only one standing while the rest knelt!

Rude in my opinion!! Really rude!!

I'm not sure what a dedication service ism, but he was extrememly rude to walk out part way through.

You have my sympathy. At my nephews' (my sisters boys) christening I had my father (a confirmed atheist) heckling the vicar during his sermons and my DH (an agnostic) muttering under his breath how much he hated church, all through the ceremony. I don't know why either of them agreed to go.

What has he said subsequently?

YANBU and not pmt.

the very fact that he didn't say anything at all about leaving shows that he was in the wrong!
the least he should have done, as a grown-up, was say "I will probably leave after the dedication bit, do you all want to stay, or leave too, or should I take one of them home with me, or do you want to stay and me take the kids?" etc.

He hasn't said anything at all, no excuses just looked embarrassed when i said how annoyed I was. I didn't want to get into a scene at the party later so haven't made a huge issue of it yet (he's gone to the Olympics today - so lets hope he isn't bored there as well!)

I wanted to know what you thought before I lay into him later, - rubs hands in anticipation of justifiably letting off PMT!

He was rude.

Christian or not, it wouldn't have killed him to stay for all of it.