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To think it would have been nice to be informed.

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ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 30/07/2012 10:30

Looks like the neighbours have got builders in. They are making a huge racket right outside my front door, and are working in the garden at the back which will effect my DD's naps...

I understand the need for these things sometimes, and I know I can't expect them to keep the noise down, but seeing as they (the neighbours) know we have a young child, it would have been nice for them to just let us know they were having work done

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Floggingmolly · 30/07/2012 20:00

It is rude not to mention building work to people who are likely to be affected by it.
Op presumably just wanted the heads up so she could work around it, not for it not to actually happen.

RevoltingChildren · 30/07/2012 20:06

It wouldn't occur to me to let our neighbours know unless we needed to ask for access brought their garden or something.

lovebunny · 30/07/2012 20:07

mrskeithrichards said: Why? What would you have done? Move out. Here's a shocking thought. Your daughters naps probably don't even register on their list of things to give a fuck about.
this is a prime example horrible behaviour on mumsnet. rude, aggressive, unnecessary.

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ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 30/07/2012 20:34

LineRunner - one of the builders...cheeky beggar.

lovebunny - didn't really bother me too much, I have a thick skin. I did think it was a tad OTT considering my OP though.

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CaliforniaLeaving · 31/07/2012 05:24

Kids sleep better than we think through this sort of thing, My Ds once slept though us having a new roof put on the house. He went to sleep while the builders were eating their lunch and slept through them walking about hammering and sawing above his head.

scaredymcnamechange · 31/07/2012 06:27

Scarlet, if the builders are going to be there a while, the cat-calling would be the worst thing, because it can make you nervous to go out.
That is what I would have issue with.
I also think it would have been polite to let you know, but babies will nap any way!

bejeezus · 31/07/2012 07:07

Wouldn't occur to me that it was rude, if I wasn't informed....

redlac · 31/07/2012 07:16

What level of work should you inform the neighbours about? I've jus had my windows and bathroom replaced and didn't inform my neighbours. One of them has two girls under 4, although it doesnt seem to stop them doing large scale DIY jobs at 9pm at night disturbing my 6yo

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ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 31/07/2012 08:17

She did sleep fine actually California, so I was worried about nothing. I should have remembered that I slept through the hurricane in 1987 when I was 4!

Thanks for your replies everyone.

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Pagwatch · 31/07/2012 08:26

I think your op is right. It would have been nice to be informed.

I try and tell the neighbours if something is likely to negatively impact them just because it is considerate to give people some warning but it isn't a big deal.

I think your neighbours were less rude than some of the answers on here though.

Charl75 · 31/07/2012 08:27

It's good for people to be honest and speak their mind here on MN but rude, aggressive behaviour is unnacceptable. Probably an indicator of an unhappy person in RL.

whitewineandchocolate · 31/07/2012 08:39

As usual with these threads I am amazed at the rudeness of some posters. Of course you should inform neighbours of major building work if their lives are going to be affected by noise dirt etc.

As others have said it's just basic good manners.

samandi · 31/07/2012 08:39

I think it does make a big difference to be informed. You then know how long the work is going to be going on for (roughly) and you just feel that others are taking you into account.

I think the child thing is daft though. Plenty of people work from home or are otherwise at home during the day, and they deserve just as much consideration.

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ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 31/07/2012 09:55

Oh of course samandi - I didn't say a child was the only consideration...it's just that it's MY only consideration at the moment. Sleep has always been a bit of a struggle with her, so anything that upsets the routine I've worked hard to maintain frazzles my nerves a bit.

Anyway, I was just having a moan...she slept fine so it was no problem.

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valiumredhead · 31/07/2012 11:07

It wouldn't occur to me to let neighbours know.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 31/07/2012 11:33

I let my neighbours on both sides know (and they well aware well in advance because we needed to do the Party Wall Agreement)

And it helps to smooth things when the buggers builders steal your neighbours parking spaces (tiny road, terraced houses here )

HeartsJandJ · 31/07/2012 11:38

I know I'd rather live next door to Scarlett than Keith!

EssexGurl · 31/07/2012 12:56

We wrote to all our affected neighbours just before we had our building work done and told them the likely duration and to let us know if they had any issues whilst it was going on. This was mainly for the benefit of the nightmare neighbour who appealed against our application - but them put in her own, more intrusive, application a few months later .

When our neighbours had their massive extension done, the builder himself knocked and gave us his card so we could let him know if there were problems.

To me, it is common decency to let your neighbours know. If they are cowards (like I was with the nasty neighbour) then just stick a note through late at night!

Birdsgottafly · 31/07/2012 13:15

My neighbours, both sides, don't have children, but i always inform them of even minor work being done and if i have a skip i let them know that if they have any bits they want to put in, they can do.

We arrange when to pressure wash our paths, so it doesn't effect each others parking.

It called being a good neighbour.

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