To think fifty shades of grey is a nightmare?

[keely027]

Being tied up and bossed about by a man doesn't make me go weak at the knees? Or am I just weird?

If you look at the sales figures, it shows (or did the last time I looked) that many more people have bought the first one than the others, so I think it's fairly safe to say that people are buying the first one out of curiousity and many of them are binning it half-read and not bothering with the sequels.

Oh and if you want some proper erotic fiction you might like that - an anthology of different stories by different authors.

Or if you want some kinkyfuckery with an actual plot you could try this though if you don't like the idea of BDSM at all it'll possibly curl your hair.

Alternatively, just skip the conversations

I've just posted that review on another friend's Facebook status (stating how bored she was with the book) and got a load of abuse from one of her other friends (who I don't know) . You know you're doing something right when you provoke a reaction like that!

absolutely !

A 'friend' deleted me from Facebook for asking her why she fancied Christian Grey. I found it very mature.

I asked because I'm repressed apparently, and know nothing of real BDSM. Dopey fucker.

Apparently, and I quote,

"if u had read more ud know he changes for her. he loves a woman he doesn't make her submissive. when a man changes for a woman thats luv..."

I'm not sure that makes any sense, but hey ho!

Did that person you quoted get much past year 3 in school, Frank ?

I'm still on the first one, someone lent me the first two books (and doesn't want them back, think that speaks volumes) and am totally nonplussed by the Christian Grey worship. He is a prick, all he is interested in is sex and he pretty much tells Ana this but she is still desperate for him to love her, why? I would have told him to do one and got off with the hot Hispanic photographer instead .

I don't get all the pants hoiking over this.

People read what interests them personally and in the bedroom they do what interests them personally between two consenting adults.

I've not read the book because it doesn't sound like my cup of tea and I'm not interested in S&M.

But I can fully understand and accept why it might float other people's boats.

Worra - if you think you can understand why 50Ss would float other people's boats, I challenge you to read it. It's the relentless, brain dead dullness of it that's the most disturbing thing.
OK, so the fawning, breathless fantasising about an abusive relationship is pretty shit too, and it's a wee bit depressing to think that somewhere some naive young person might be encouraged to believe that abusive relationships are acceptable or even desirable.
The really astounding thing about the popularity of 50S is that it's just so, so, sooo tedious.

"if u had read more ud know he changes for her. he loves a woman he doesn't make her submissive. when a man changes for a woman thats luv..."

What did you say to that? I think i'd have pissed myself on the spot.

I agree about tedious...the bloody threads are doing my head in.

But whether I eventually read it or not, doesn't change the fact that I can understand how other people like certain books/sexual practises that I don't.

I'm just surprised other people can't accept that.

It would be a boring world if we were all the same.

QueenofDiamonds, I said something along the lines of:

"The main male character is portrayed as "the perfect man" when in reality he's an abusive control freak. If my best friend were dating a man like that I'd tell her to Run. Run fast. Run now. And take out a restraining order!"

I started this thread because everyone seems to be raving about this dominating / abuse concept as being great. I thought I was alone in feeling a bit sad that (due to the huge sales) that this was 99 percent of what women's ideal sexual relationship is. After reading all your posts I am relieved to hear I was wrong. Hurrrah for sanity.my faith in womanhood is a restored...somewhat.

What bothers me is less the actual book - people like all sorts of drivel, after all - than the gleeful insistence in a lot of the media that abuse is what all women really crave, and those silly fun-spoiling feminists have got it all wrong.

Look Keely some people see (for example) spanking as abuse despite the fact two consenting adults might get turned on about it.

Yet I'm quite sure if you tried to spank someone outside of the bedroom so to speak...they would definitely see that as violence.

There are plenty of people who have S&M relationships inside the bedroom only and neither see it as any kind of abuse...in fact they continue to have perfectly equal relationships.

So I wouldn't worry about 'womanhood' or anything like that.

What turns people on is their personal business imo.

Yeah, them Feminists suck the fun out of everything

But at the same time I agree with sgb in the sense that if the media are saying it's what all women want then that's just bloody stupid.

All women and all men are different and individual people.

My best mate has literally just posted this FB status

"going to bed with Mr Grey, I've been neglecting him for too long"

< slowly connects forehead with desk, and repeat >

Worral....I really have no issue with what people do consentially in their own room. As long as it doesn't involve animals and children. It's the concept of naive virgin and big strong mentally abusive man that Erks. I find it odd that huge amount of women seem to be excited by this concept. Sorry for sounding like a feminist....but hey I do think we own feminists a huge amount...feminism is not a dirty word.

I can kind of see what you're saying but I do also think you're perhaps forgetting all this is a fad...a phase like any other.

Like certain music, films, fashion.

It'll be gone soon enough and Facebook will be filled with the next 'latest' whatever that may be.

I just did a 'public posts' search of the term 'grey'.

Wow, i have just finished "fifty shades of grey", roll on " fifty shades darker". Hmmmm Mr Grey u sound too good to be true oh and that's right u r a fictional character hahaha. Men like this only exist in books. Hahah

Oh.Fucking.Dear.

This is my favourite;

All these girls with statuses about 50 shades of grey being awesome. I'm surprised half of them can read.

Dude knows what's right!

It's the vulgar materialism that worries me more tbh