to wonder why is it assumed that because I have a DD that I'll be 'trying for a boy' next?

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Just like any mum with one child, I am always asked when we are having the next one but this assumption keeps being dragged out. Don't know how it would be even possible to 'try' for a boy!

Ahh I got the exact same thing, we have 5 girls - after DD1 everyone said that they thought I should have a boy next. When DD2 was born, a few people even asked whether I wished she was a boy or not. When I was then pregnant with triplets, the amount of people who asked whether I was 'wishing' for 3 boys!?! It was crazy!
We really weren't bothered about whether they were boys or girls, just healthy babies. When it turned out to be 3 girls, we had old ladies saying 'Oh you poor things, maybe next time...' / 'Just keep trying, I'm sure you'll get a boy one day' / 'What does your husband think about all this?'

YADNBU! Agreed that they are just trying to make conversation but its a bit unnecessary to ask if I'm 'disappointed with my 5 girls'.

I have a fairly new dc2 and people are always saying 'ooh one of each you must be thrilled'. I always say 'actually I wanted a second girl'. I was always desperate for a sister and wanted that for my daughter. It is irritating when people say it especially as sometimes there is a slight edge of oh your life is just perfect from some quarters, and it gets up my nose a bit. YANBU.

I'm pregnant with DC2, DC1 is a boy.

Every child born in my DH's family in the past 60 years has been male (yes seriously) so I'm not holding out much hope that DC2 could be female and I really don't mind what sex it is.

My dad keeps going on and on about how DC2 must be a female and how lovely it would be for me if I gave birth to a girl. I don't think he believes me when I say that I really don't care what sex the baby is, as long as he or she is healthy.

Needles I am in your DHs position in reverse

the last male born on my mums side was my great uncle (who is 90)
the last male born on my dads side is my dad (who is 66)

All my cousins and aunts have girls
I now have a girl
I am also now one of the only one who can have any more children (due to some sad events)

we will be trying for another baby soon
I think it will probably be a girl but I am like your DH I am secretly hoping for a boy! (I don't see it as a bad thing to admit that) would be a lovely change and cement my place as favourite grandchild

I even had this from a doctor, when I found out that DC2 was going to be a boy after DD.

I think he even said 'Thank God, you can stop now' before beginning to explain why further pregnancies would be medically inadvisable...

My DS2 was about 5 minutes old when a midwife in hospital said to me "well you'll need to be back here again in a couple of years with a third child. You need a daughter you know. A daughters a daughter for life. A son is a son until he gets a wife.". I thought that was pretty rude.

Yep suntime I've had that reeled out to me as well - Once by my nan when ds2 was newborn and once by random stranger in supermarket.

creamtea1 I was full of hormones at the time. I only wish I'd come back with a witty "mind your own business and be piss off" type reply. Instead I waited til she'd gone and had a cry!

Kayano it isn't my DH who is saying that about "wanting" a DD, but my own dad! My dad sometimes really just doesn't know when to keep his mouth buttoned and thinks that his opinions must be those of others.

I'm 26 weeks pregnant with DS2 and live in a wonnderfully 'chatty' neighbourhood where everybody from staff in shops to random people in the street has asked me if I'm hoping for a girl this time. Maybe they are all just making conversation, but about a hundred people have said this!

My in-laws are are genuinely disappointed that I'm having a boy because they wanted a granddaughter. They keep saying so, bless them, although I'm sure they will love their new grandson just as much.

I just smile and tell everybody I'm happy and relieved to be having another boy because two boys is exactly what I would have chosen if I could

3DDs here.

When my now ex H rang his mum to say DD3 had been born she said "Oh" - sigh - "never mind"

Like mushroomsoup I had DD followed by DS so now I am pg with number three I get 'don't you know when to stop?! You already have one of each' (yes, someone said that in all seriousness!)

Even some family members could hardly bring themselves to congratulate me on number three because they couldn't understand it!

Doesn't bother me though (can't wait for their reactions if I have a fourth!)

Don't read anything into it they are just making conversation or asking if you'd like a boy. As others have said not totally clear than one can "try for a boy", although I did try "for a boy" with DC2 after DD (ie timing mainly, Dh switched to boxers, cold baths etc) and DC2 was a boy, but no way would I admit that to someone, well maybe I would now, but not when newly pregnant etc. And it may not have made any difference.