Ok, a bit of background... I have been with DH for 8 years and we've never had an overseas holiday just the two of us, and only had one weekend away in the UK (which was a present from his parents as we didn't have a honeymoon). We have also been to France with his parents twice. I would love to go on a proper holiday just DH and me, but DH has always resisted because he's self-employed freelancer.
A couple of weeks ago, I suggested a weekend away in the UK that would cost £250. DH vetoed this, as I'm 15 weeks pregnant (with a planned, very much wanted baby) and the UK was flooded at the time. I accepted this, as I'm also self-employed and our finances will be stretched having the baby.
DH told me today that he has an opportunity to go to Thailand. I thought that this was with work and my initial reaction was, wow, what a great opportunity for him.
He then said that it wasn't for work, but rather that a childhood friend has invited him to stay with her and her kids and her DH. All he had to do was pay for flight (£1000).
I asked whether I was invited too, and he said no, the invite is just for him. He then showed me her email. As well as not inviting me, DH's friend says that she thought that DH was always against having kids and asks whether he now "under the thumb". DH replied that I hadn't forced him to have a child and that it is very much wanted.
I'm not annoyed at DH for wanting to go to Thailand without me, but I am irritated that he doesn't understand why I think that it is rude / inconsiderate for her to:
(1) invite DH to Thailand knowing that I'm pregnant, and
(2) suggest that I have somehow coerced DH into having children in the first place.
AIBU?