to be crying in the and not know what to do nex.

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So I have been to my sister's wedding with dh and dc. Dc tbf was not feeling great and was tired. Although I am tired too at 32 weeks pregnant and the heat was killing me. All dh did was moan about the wedding. Saying we were wasting hours waiting for things to happen. All normal at a wedding.

In the end we left early because he was so. Miserable. He even made a comment about going to beachy head. That really disturbed me.
next morning he left breakfast table without telling me to load car. Clearly he couldn't wait to get away from my siblings who live all over country. So I stayed chatting until ds came and asked me to go to car for something. Whilst at car with ds and sil he throws room key on the ground and swears at me whilst asking me to go and get my stuff and clean teeth.
I am beyond embarressed and can barely look at him.
aibu to think this is goin to be hard to get over.
sorry long.

I'd probably been the same if i were him, i loathe weddings and wouldn't be able to wait to leave. But he shouldnt have thrown the keys- what a twat

he needs to have some more respect for you rather than talk to you like shit and throw a pathetic childish temper tantrum throwing the room key on the floor.
he is the one who has made himself look a fool and he should be the one who is embarrassed not you. i would confront him about his behavior do not allow this sort of controlling childish attitude to go on you are his partner and the mother to his children not a small child.

Is this normal behaviour or out of the blue?

Massive respect issues going on either way.

Does he treat you like this often?

Git,

I do hope he apologises to you properly, and I hope he is more respectful and kinder in the future,

I hope you work it out, good luck.

he has never sworn at me before and certainly not in front of dc and other relatives. I do think there is more to it. This baby was unplanned and I think he is less keen. However. He is inclined to get wound up easily. He is prone to shouting at dc etc.

You are quite right to be furious with him. I think you need to have a conversation with him and think about whether this is out of character or not. I live with a bit of a man child and have had to adopt a very matter of fact approach which sometimes means doing things without him so that he doesn't spoil events which I want to enjoy. This is obviously a shit solution and I don't mince my words anymore about his behaviour. Only you can decide how serious this behaviour is and whether he is usually kind and considerate. Be careful though that you don't start changing your behaviour to avoid his pathetic tantrums.

Thank you. Not really had a chance to talk yet but hopefully dc will go to sleep a bit earlier so we can discuss this.
I sometimes wonder if he realise how awful he was. He is behaving as if nothing out of the ordinary went on.
O and no he seems quite happy to go to wedding.
I guess I am also more upset because my family are extra important to me as my parents have both passed away. So the day was really emotional.

It sounds to me like he may be depressed. Unless there is an underlying reason why he might find the wedding hard work that you haven't divulged. If it's face value, then YANBU, it sounds like he is struggling and is crying out for help. But be careful, we are men, we can't take unasked for help as it feels like charity and impotence and makes our dicks shrivel. Find a female way to make him realise he needs help.
Be well and good luck with the last few weeks of your pregnancy (u 33 weeks?)

beyond me, this one.
weddings are atrocious, no fun for anyone, not even the bride. that accepted, if you go along with the event you can still have a good time. if you rail against it, you'll suffer more.
what is it that's really bothering him? being a father of two? being settled when there are people in the world with no commitments? his work or lack of? there'll be something, and it might not have anything to do with weddings at all.

His mention of going to a beauty spot well known for suicides is standing out in this for me Has he had any treatment for depression?