What do I do?

[killagorilla]

I'm looking after my 2 dsis aged 13 and 16 at my mums while she is abroad for her brother's funeral.
My 13 yr old sis has recently been getting slack at school because she has come out as gay and confided in a friend who then told everyone.
She shares a room with her sister, today the 16 year old asked if a friend could sleepover and I said yes.
I have now just found out that the girl who has come over refuses to sleep in their room because my little sister is gay and I quote "is worried she will make a move on her".
I'm appalled that my 16 year old sis is not sticking up for the 13 year old and have heard her calling her a dyke, cue her friend laughing. I've taken the 13 year old in the living room with me and she will be sleeping in a different bedroom with me and my kids tonight. But she is beside herself and I'm so angry about this whole thing.
I want to send my 16 year old sis friend home but her parents are at the Olympic ceremony, hence why she is here. And I have a baby asleep so can't take her home.
I know this is horrible but I really feel like slapping my 16 year old sis and her friend as I have only just found out now how horrible they have been to my 13 year old sis after it has been carrying all day. Apparently pulling her hair and just generally being abusive. My 13 year old sis was too scared to tell me.
WIBU to order a cab for this girl or is it too dangerous to send a 16 year old home in a cab on her own? I am fuming!

Have you considered talking to them in a reasonable fashion about why their behaviour is unacceptable?

Teenagers are notoriously intolerant little shites. A few wise words could make all the difference.

I really think that my sister's friend is influencing her to be mean to her littles sister. I keep trying to talk to her but she keeps saying the 13 year old is lying. Even though I bloody heard some of the stuff they were saying, which made me intervene and take little sis out of the situation.

Hmm sis and friend just came down asking for pizza! no fucking way

I agree no fucking way on the pizza and any other treats. They certainly need a good talking to, and your 13 yr old DSis probably needs a hug too!! You are doing an awesome job of keeping control of a difficult situation. Get rid of 16 yr old guest as soon as you can in the morning, making it clear why!! Bullying for any reason is unacceptable. But you would never live with yourself if something happened to her while she was meant to be with you!

Read the little cows the riot act!

Tell your nice that you are discussed with her behaviour and send her to bed.

As for hae mate, tell her that her parents will be informed and send her to bed too.

At 16 they are old enough to know better

Disgusted obv.
Dam iPad!

read them the riot act and send them straight to bed - not before telling them homophobic abuse is a crime!

Oh and get pizza for the 13 year old and your lo's!

how horrible of them:( 16 year-olds really should know better. I can understand you not wanting to kick one out, though. I think you could send her on her way in the morning. If you feel able to tell her parents do, and she's not welcome again while you are holding the fort. They will whine, sulk, shout and do their level worst to make you feel unreasonable. Don't let them!

I would give both 16yos a talking to. Making sure to point out to 16yo friend that she is not 13yos "type".
16yo friends parents would then be called to collect their homophobic bullying daughter.

Kill them both.

That'sbthevsort of mood I'm in right now.

Remember girls have complicated social structures: your middle sister could feel obligated to laugh. Though having a word with them both wouldn't kill them, they are old enough to know better.

Gay and lesbian people don't jump everyone who is a member of the right sex!

Tell your dsis's friend that she shouldn't flatter herself, your 13 year old sis has better taste.

Seperate the two of them (the 16 year olds). Don't leave them to gang up on the younger one. (and no fucking pizza)

I agree with the others. It doesn't sound as though you can send the friend home, but you can read them the riot act and make sure they don't get any more fun this evening.

Your poor dsis

At 16 she's old enough to get married, she can stay at home on her own. What a nasty little bitch. Be tough. Explain that you are not going to tolerate homophobic bullying in your home and she has made herself very unwelcome, you don't want to see her again. Call a taxi, she is more than capable of babysitting herself for the night. If she wants to whinge to her parents about it, they can hear all about how nasty and horrible their dd has been.

As for your sixteen year old sister, be furious with her, she not only failed to stand up for her sister, she bullied her. She needs to know how disgusted you are. I'd make her sleep on the couch and let the little sister have the bedroom to herself. She should also be grounded until your mother gets back.

I'd also be letting your guest's parents know about her behavior.

I would send her home, as long as you think the parents will understand. the 13 year old should feel safe in her own house, and the 16 year old needs to see the consequences of her behaviour and b epunished.

What happened op?

Please tell us you sent the horrid thing home

And kudos to your little sister for knowing herself so well and being true to herself at such a young age