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Pram in house before baby is born

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LittleSugaPlum · 27/07/2012 19:43

This isnt really a AIBU but more of a WWYD.

Im 29 weeks pregnant. Everything has been brought for our little girl, nursery set up, and finished etc.

The last thing to get was the pram and carseat.

It has arrived today. I ve pulled it all out of its box, put it together to make sure everything was there and right etc.

However i know many people say you shouldnt have a pram in the house before baby is born as its bad luck.

I ve put the pram in the nursery with the rest of the accessories for it.

Is it wise to have it in the house?

DH doesnt believe in superstition. Im not sure whether i do or not, its just i dont know anyone who has had the pram in the house.

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EclecticShock · 27/07/2012 19:44

I don't believe in superstition. Leave the pram in the nursery, unless it's going to make you anxious, which isn't good for a pregnant lady :)

AKMD · 27/07/2012 19:45

YANBU, having a pram in the house (or not) has absolutely nothing to do with the outcome of a pregnancy.

GnocchiNineDoors · 27/07/2012 19:46

Well, there are lots of shiny happy babies born to parents who have a pram already set up in their home.

However, if you feel it is making you anxious and stressful worrying about this, why not ask a friend to take it for a while / put it in the garage / your parents?

bigkidsdidit · 27/07/2012 19:46

I've never heard that, I made ours at 32 weeks ish. It can't be bad luck really, can it :) not logically.

We've had no bad luck yet!

picnicbasketcase · 27/07/2012 19:46

Being prepared for the baby to arrive is not bad luck, IMHO.

JumpingThroughHoops · 27/07/2012 19:46

Oh good god no!

Meglet · 27/07/2012 19:47

I did with both of mine (a double before DC2 arrived). I wanted to practice steering it before it had a real baby in it.

AmandinePoulain · 27/07/2012 19:47

Well mine's here and ready to go, I've even got the car seat fitted because we haven't really got anywhere else to put it and I've got 3 weeks to go. What else would you do with it? I'm far too organised and get stressed if things aren't ready, plus the pram took weeks to come (we're still waiting for the apron despite ordering it in May ), I couldn't have coped without knowing it was here and ready to use

Trazzletoes · 27/07/2012 19:47

Had pram in house twice. 2 babies arrived safe and well. I am superstitious but didn't know this one, thank goodness! Leave it where it is.

Debs75 · 27/07/2012 19:48

I was a bit superstitious with no1 and 2 and sent the pram to MIL's. When I had 3 it was in the house for about a month or so and by the time I had no4 it was there all the way through the pregnancy or no3 wouldn't of had a pram to be in.

Like AKMD said it has nothing to do with the outcome of your pregnancy so do as you wish

SecretNutellaMedal · 27/07/2012 19:48

It's a load of old bollocks.

So what happens if you have another within 2 years of this one? Will you immediately make your older child walk everywhere so there is no pram in the house?

Seriously- why would it make a blind bit of difference to the outcome of your pregnancy? It originated in the time when stillbirth and maternal death was rife. As the most expensive item in the nursery, it would make sense not to actually buy it until the baby had arrived back then, especially as returns were almost unheard of.

Enjoy th erest of your pregnancy and stop listening to the twits who maintain such lunacy.

starrychime · 27/07/2012 19:50

Well, I bought a pram well before DD was born and kept it in the house - nowhere else to keep it
It's a piece of metal and plastic really - I didn't have the time or the inclination to even consider that sort of thing - no family about to keep it and too much of a faff to get it after the birth and no partner to help get it for me. Needed a fair bit of practice to put it up and down as well

HecateHarshPants · 27/07/2012 19:50

It won't cause anything to happen. Honestly it won't.

Like breaking a mirror will not bring you 7 years of bad luck, the devil won't be over your shoulder if you spill salt and a four leafed clover has no magical powers.

People like to believe that they can affect the things that happen in their life if they perform little rituals or avoid doing certain things, when the reality is that things will happen if they happen and are not caused or prevented by saluting a magpie or putting shoes on the table

Please, please don't worry yourself. Bringing a pram into your home isn't a problem but worrying yourself about it isn't good for you!

Tinkerisdead · 27/07/2012 19:50

I had mine in the house, twice. And think about it everyone on dc2 or more is likely to already have their pram in the house from dc1 so it cant be right.

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LittleSugaPlum · 27/07/2012 19:51

So what happens if you have another within 2 years of this one? Will you immediately make your older child walk everywhere so there is no pram in the house? This comment made me laugh!

I hadnt actually thought about that.

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AgentZigzag · 27/07/2012 19:53

I agree it's just an old wives tale, but when you're pregnant all the very natural fears and worries you have about how your baby will get out () can group together in weird ways.

It's understandable, and doesn't mean you think such things are true if you go along with them for peace of mind.

If you can rationalise it as the wives tale it is, that's great.

But, the name of the game is to make yourself feel comfortable, and if finding another place for the pram will make you feel like you have a measure of control over what's to come, then where's the harm?

Tamisara · 27/07/2012 19:57

I used to be like you OP (in fact I had lots of little superstitions, bordering on OCD).

With DS, I left the pram/carrycot in the shop, until he was born.

With DD1 (18.5 yrs younger than DS, so nothing from DS remained), I bought the pram & gliding crib, clothes - everything - long before she was born.

I did buy a double pushchair when pregnant with DD2, and had everything else from DD1. She was born sleeping at 37 weeks. Of course it was not because I had baby things in the house.

Of course it was distressing, coming home to a house ready for a baby, but no baby. On the other hand it was comforting; she existed.

So OP superstition plays no part (as the others have said), and when things do go wrong, it is no comfort not having the things in the house.

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LittleSugaPlum · 27/07/2012 20:00

Tamisara

OMG that is awful, im very sorry for your loss.

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mamij · 27/07/2012 20:02

Don't worry! We had ours made up when I was about 32 weeks with DD1, and it has been in the house the whole time I was pregnant with DD2! DD2 is now a lovely, happy, healthy 9 month old!

mamij · 27/07/2012 20:03

Cross post. Tamisara really sorry to hear of your loss. Hugs.

BertieBotts · 27/07/2012 20:06

I never heard about it until after DS was born - oops. Bit late then!

Hulababy · 27/07/2012 20:07

We had our pram in the house from being about 6 months pregnant; DD turned out ok.

minesapintofwine · 27/07/2012 20:16

I had a pram in the house and got it out every now and then to practise I couldnt wait to walk my dts in it. When I actually left the house with it I decided I didnt like it anymore so bought a different one. I also had already changed my mind during pregnancy so at 6 months dts are now in theyre 3rd pram only 2 of which have been used (I sold one before they were even born). Dh still uses 2nd pram on principal. Anyway the moral of the story is having broken all my dm and dmil superstitions no bad luck yet-just a shopping addiction. Have a nice time looking at your pram and imagining your cute baby in it. Hell push it around the living room a few times and practise putting it up and down so you can look really cool when you fold your pram double quick in car parks. Go on you know you want to . Congratulations on impending arrival.

minesapintofwine · 27/07/2012 20:19

tamira am very sorry for your loss sorry if my post seemed insensitive to this as I confess I didnt see it before. You sound very strong. I want to give you the not sure what its for really but assuming only for those that deserve it (ie the most amazing ones here)

Rollersara · 27/07/2012 20:23

I didn't put house in the house (space reasons rather than superstition). Then, when DD had arrived and we were off to an appointment it took me and my DM 2 HOURS to assemble the damn thing!

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