She turned 8 today....she wanted a prticularly expensive gift so she chose that and another couple of treats instead of a party...plus most of her mates are on hols now...so it made sense.
We decided to have a small tea party with cake and some nice snacks last night...we asked her cousins who I will call A and B....they live close by and are the same age as DD...they all get on very well.
My Mum has taken it upon herself to get very cross because I did not invite DDs older cousins who I will call X and Z who are 12 and 11...they live 30 miles away and we saw them yesterday...they came to visit and all had a nice time.
my reasoning is that I did not want to make a big deal...it was just cake and a sandwich...not a party...no loot bags or anything and her cousins are that much older that they would not be into the same things as my DD....there is a big dfference between just 8 and 12....and yesteday, while they all seemed ok...the older girls did a lot of sighing and sitting down by their Mum...ALSO my sister (their Mum) stopped asking my DD to any of her girls celebrations YEARS ago....when they got old enough to want to have select gatherings...which is totally fine by me...my DD was not even invited to small tea parties her girls had...to which they DID ask their neighbours who were smaller....
So it was a little tit for tat but also because I DO understand that X and Z are older...they get bored.
WIBU not to ask cousins X and Z? My Mum came today but hardly ate a thing and was in my opinion a little grumpy.