to think this is not an excuse for bullying?

[biddysmama]

my ds1 is 10 and my brother is 15, when we go to family do's or anytime we see him he picks on him, fights with him,gives him wedgies and takes the mickey out of him (we now avoid him btw) to the extent that my 3 year old is scared of my brother... ive told him to stop and he laughs it off, now when we are invited i say "no,he wont leave him alone and now dd is scared of him"

apparently its because he doesnt have a younger sibling, the brother older than him did it top him and the oldest brother did it to that brother, its just his way of balancing it it

i reckon its bull and he should leave my son alone

so aibu?

You are doing exactly the right thing in protecting your children, biddysmama. I only wish my parents had even tried to protect me from the bullies at school who have blighted your life.

You're showing your children that you are there for them and will protect them, and that they deserve to be treated with respect. You are amazing!!

What are your parents doing about it? They are his parents and they should be laying down the ground rules/punishments. Parents are wimping out of their responsibilities.

I agree it's best to be totally honest about why DS won't be visiting. Eventually it will sink in. Try ''No we won't be coming because brother is a bully and we don't tolerate bullies''