Okay. This probably sounds hugely ungrateful but here goes.
A distant friend had a baby about 9 or 10 months before I did. I met up with her and her husband many months later, when my DD was 4 or 5 months old, and they kindly passed on a few bits. A padded suit and a few bibs. I thanked her very much and we used the bibs but not the suit.
A very poor friend then had a baby and I passed her the suit because she was struggling so much financially.
A few days ago, out of the blue, the first friend asks for the padded suit and the bibs back. I was a bit floored by this because I was never told it was a loan. I thought she was passing things to me in the same way that I passed on my own baby things, just to help out each other. The suit I sort of understood, but the bibs I just find utterly ridiculous. Who wants 3rd hand dribbled on, stained bibs for their baby?
Just wondered if it's me being daft or her? I'd feel awful saying I'd passed on the suit to a desperately poor friend, and I'd feel worse giving back 2 or 3 old bibs. This first friend isn't poor, by the way.
What do I do?