Do any of your DP's hang out with female friends just the two of them?

[loveroflife]

DP has a friend from school who always keeps in touch with him and wants to meet up.

I've met her a few times, she's fine, a little dull, is single still lives at home with her parents - is 35 wants to be married, kids etc.

She hung around with DP and his friends at school and loved being the only girl in their gang - bit of a tomboy, loves footie etc.

Anyway, she is always the one who texts/emails DP to arrange a get together - just the two of them as the rest of the group has drifted away, but incidentally there was a bbq arranged a while back from one of the other guys but she wasn't invited, nothing sinister, I just think they forgot to include her.

I have digressed but she has come here about 5 times for dinner/drinks - a couple of times I've cooked, but the last three times I've left them to it and gone out myself as they talk about school and quite frankly after an hour I'm bored out of my skull.....I think in all honestly she has a bit of a soft spot for DP and always tells me 'how lovely he was at school' bla bla but DP honestly sees her as one of the lads, she loves DS and says how cute he is etc, how much he looks like his Daddy etc......

DP is as loyal as a dog and always invites her here (to include me) but this time they're going out just the two of them - fine, I get a night in ALONE.

Anyway, I really am not jealous AT ALL but AIBU to think she's a teeny bit odd that she always wants to hang out with DP when he doesn't make the effort with her and she doesn't keep in contact with the other boys?

Mine does and I have male friends that are not friends of DP's - many of them also in relationships now too, where I don't necessarily know their OH quite as well. I don't think it's weird really. You seem to trust your DP absolutely, which is the main thing. After that I'd say he must be getting something out of the friendship to see this person on a fairly regular basis and it seems she is too, so leave them to it.

Yep, and I am perfectly OK with it. She was his friend WAY before I came on the scene, she has a long-term B/F so why should I worry? Funny thing is we are both the same pretty much, personality wise.

good grief, just because you're female doesn't mean you 'want to get your claws' into a male friend. I went to a mainly male university and remain close friends with several of the 'boys' I met a lifetime ago. We're very affectionate when we meet but I have no designs on them whatsoever, never did. It can actually be quite difficult sometimes as the expectation can be to divide in to male/female groups at some social gatherings and, whilst their wives and partners are universally lovely, it doesn't feel quite right that my husband should spend the event chatting with MY friends whilst I spend my time with their partners.

She just sounds lonely to me, poor woman.

I've got a couple of male friends like this - one suffered very badly with depression and was almost unable to leave his house for a couple of years, the other is just a rather shy and socially awkward person. I don't want to see them all the time and wouldn't often contact them because, to be honest because I don't find them especially exciting company. I'd get in touch if I'd not heard from them in ages.

So I think your DH is probably just being a nicer person, no harm.