The dreaded Facebook...but I am a bit miffed!

[Downnotout]

My DS and his GF have just spent a week with us on holiday. I'm still here but they have gone home. DS posted a pic of DD ( his little sis) on FB. She is 10. I have no problem with it- just head and shoulders.

I have just spotted a vindictive status from someone I know saying" 7 holidays a year, your child might be glowing and bronzed now but how will they be in 15 years time?"

I know it's aimed at me. Fwiw I haven't had 7 holidays ( who has?). It's just p**ed me off. It's only a snap of his sister FGS. Tell me I am BU because I really want to tell her to sod off and I don't post cryptic comments on FB and this isn't a stealth boast. DD was wearing factor 50 and a hat.

Tell her to go fuck herself and find something better to do with her life than making rude, ignorant comments about a child.

How do you know it's aimed at your DD? IS she "glowing and bronzed"? are you sure you aren't just feeling a bit guilty if she is, and reading too much into something that isn't actually about you at all?

YANBU. No need to put comments like that, sounds like jelousy to me. I would be tempted to post "Jealous much?!" in responce.
That or "7 holidays?! I frigging wish. In 15 years she will be whatever she choses to be."

It's Facebook. People behave like knobs. Don't let it get to you.

I would be tempted to comment on it and say 'I'm confused, what do you mean?' and see if they are brave enough to say it directly. But the better course of action would probably be to block them.

How do you know its aimed at you?

Was she sun burnt? Maybe they are being judgey about it.....

It's about us.

It's a tricky situation via her DH working previously for mine. I should defriend her really but I don't want to create any more grief, we live in a small community and I feel like my life is a goldfish bowl.

Am being over sensitive really but I can't do with these veiled digs on FB and am sorely tempted to post one of my own.

some one sounds of your seven holiday.

No she's not burnt. Never has been. Glowing yes. But has naturally olive skin and the pic had been enhanced with instagram- don't ask me what that is but it makes things sharper and changes the colour like HD.

Post '15 years? Let's hope she's bitter, petty and slagging off children on Facebook because she's got nothing better to do. Oh no, wait, that's you'

Defriend her.

Why would you want some one looking at your personal stuff?

I read into that she is suggesting a 10 year old should not have a tan and in 15 years time her skin will have aged more than it should and hopefully she won't have skin cancer. If that is what is being suggested i agree, not sure I would butt into somebody else's business and tell them though.

Or is it jealousy and vindictiveness? In which case ignore.

(but please don't let a 10 year old tan, they are not old enough to know better themselves)

Haha JennyPiccolo. Just the sort of thing my fingers are itching to write.

If you don't want to start anything up with her, I'd just delete the comment & ignore.

You could also defriend her.

De-friend her ffs, she isn't a friend and so what if she suddenly realises you're not on her friend's list anymore. If asked, tell her you've given up facebook as it was stressing you out. Do it and at the same time, de-friend any other people who aren't really friends. (I've recently done this and it feels as good as a spring clean )

I use instagram, it's like twitter and fb but in pictures. You basically take pictures, enhance them with filters and then post them, then people who are your followers "like" them. If you don't want pics of your daughter on a public social network site then I would tell your DS to delete the pic because photos on instagram are not private.

Just block her, or at the very least block her comments.

Block her and if she mentions it say your FB has been playing up and the settings keep changing, but somehow don't get round to changing them again. (You're so busy with all your holidays... )

No I don't mind the pic of her being there. I have relatively few friends and only really use it for family who live abroad to see updates. However I really don't have a problem with the picture being there.

I've just noticed a thread on here about kids being sunburnt. I can honestly say she isn't burnt at all but she is tanned and I know people will flame me for that. But like I said, factor 50 and a hat. She is golden even in January.

No this person is just being a cow and it's not like me at all but it's really riled me. Hey ho.

how exactly do you stop kids getting tanned?

Just delete her.

FB angst is a bit childish TBH.

Silly woman probably regretted writing it in the morning, btw there is a massive rickets problem now as kids aren't being exposed to enough sun!!!