to want my own birthday party *stamps feet*

[biddysmama]

on my next birthday i will be 30, my sisters birthday is the same day and she will be 16 and my cousin will be 18 the week after

the last time i had a party i was 9

my husband was going to throw me a surprise party but my family have decided we might aswell have them all together as one party and have taken over MY party and now i know about it.

aibu to want it to myself? i know its a bit childish really

If you were all closer in age I could see the appeal of a joint party but I would imagine for most people their 18th birthday is rather different from their 30th!

yanbu, disinvite your family and keep your birthday party to friends. You can have a different celebration for all three of you with your family on a different date.

When I was 16 or 18 I would have stuck pins in the eyes of anyone who tried to lump my party in with a bunch of 30 somethings!

YANBU

Just organise your own party and do it your own way if you really feel the need to have one.

Not childish. No harm in wanting something just for yourself occasionally.

There's no way the 16 yo and the 18 yo will want to share a party with a 30 yo! No offence - in fact that is your way out. Tell the family that it's really unfair for them to have to share it with an old fuddy duddy like you and you're going to get your DH to sort a separate decorous tea party raucous shindig .

Go ahead and stamp your feet and reclaim your party, OP.

My 30th was a lot of fun. Sharing with teenagers is not on.

YANBU, demand you're own party you deserve it after so long.

I wouldn't want a party with 16 yr olds and why is it down to your family, organise it yourself and have what you want. My family can't make enforceable decisions about MY birthday.

YANBU.... daft idea

But is it family only or full on everybody you know party?

If the latter YANBU, but the former I feel you are BU. My Nan's birthday is six days before mine and we always had a joint birthday party which was the whole family. I think it was as much an excuse to get together being honest but it was nice and we carried on doing it even though less and less of the family turned up eventually thanks to drama until I left home.

Have a friends only party and celebrate that your own way!

YANBU! Does an 18 year old really want to share with a party for a 30 year old?
I wouldn't want a load of drunk 18 year olds at my 30th in 2 years time sobs
Stand your ground and have your own do!