to not want to put dd back in her cot?

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The past couple of nights Dd has taken a few goes to stay in her bed and go to sleep. She's 23 months and has been in a bed for about 6 weeks.

Usually she's very good at bed time, it's been very hot the past few days so I think that's what's upsetting her.

Dp wants to put her back in her cot as punishment if she gets up too many times.

I want to just put her back in her bed if she gets up.

AIBU?

I would stick with the bed. She needs to learn to stay in of her own accord not because you have sealed her away

Plus I would have thought a consistent message and bed environment would be needed, to change t might make her worse in the future!

YANBU. Put her to bed and open a window/put a fan in the room? DD won't sleep if it's too hot and she has a fan on top of her wardrobe which gives a nice breeze.

I'd certainly be telling her that if she can't be a big girl and stay in her big girl bed she will be going back into the babies cot and I'd go through with it.

keep to the bed. avoid making any part of bedtime a punishment.
she's only small. she needs you. there's every chance she'll be minding her own business at nights by the time she's fourteen...

She's pretty young to be in a bed; are you sure she's ready for it? To be honest I think I'd put her in her cot and try the bed again in a month or two when she may be happier with it. I wouldn't make it a punishment though.

Thanks all for your opinions.

To clarify, dp wanted to say, if you get out if bed again you're going in your cot, rather than move her back in and put the bed away iyswim.

We're going to go with consistency and keep her in the bed, see how she is once the weather cools down.

Thanks again!

Stick with it. She may be just experimenting with the new freedom she has, I can't really see the problem with her getting out of bed tbh. Just check what she wants, if it's nothing tell her it's bedtime and put her back.

I don't think she is too young for a bed, we moved our DD to a toddler bed just after her 1st birthday. She hated her cot bars and used to cry going to bed, as soon as we removed them she relaxed much more and slept better.

6 months later she doesn't really get out once she's in. Even in the morning she shouts to tell us she's awake even though she could get out if she wanted.