To be slightly annoyed

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About this. My friend had her pfb 4 weeks ago, I have 2ds aged 4 and 12 weeks. My friend is also a nursery nurse but works with older children (preschoolers).

Tue night I had a missed call from her dh (also a friend of mine) while I was exercising. I rang him back when I could and he said he tried to ring my mobile, landline and my dh because they werent sure whether they should offer their ds water. I explained as its so hot yes you can offer cooled boiled water if you feel they are getting dehydrated as he is ff.

I since have had 2 or 3 texts asking the same question o which I gave the same answer. I have now had a Facebook notification she is asking the same question again in her Facebook status to which I gave (again) the same answer but also added my ds2 is refusing water so is having more milk feeds as he wants it (also ff). Other people also said yes to water.

She is one of my best friends and I would do anything for her (and have partaken in 4am reassurance texting with her when she first took her ds home) and I don't mind anyone asking me questions and they don't even have to take my advice as I don't always take advice given to me but aibu to be slightly annoyed at the number of times I was asked followed by the status which suggests she doesn't trust me?

I can be over sensitive and currently being treated for pnd so I fully could be unreasonable in my feeling and if I am that's fine as nobody is reasonable all the time :)

YANBU to be slightly annoyed. They're being annoying.

YANBU

But can the baby have water or not?

She's tired, she's stressed, she's read the back of the formula box which warns v strictly about using the right amount of powder-to-water ratio, so doesn't get how offering water is right alongisde that advice.
I can see why you're irritated, but I don't think she doesn't listen to/trust your advice, I think she just wants to be absolutely 100% sure.

Pmsl warra yes they bloody well can but it's not the end of the world as we know it if they don't.

Its not that she doesn't trust you, - you said it in your first sentence - it's her PFB and they've only been parents for 4 weeks. You panic about the daftest things and are terrified of doing the wrong thing and some disaster befalling your baby. Cut her a bit of slack - she appreciate your advice I'm sure and i expect it's helpful for her to know she can call on you.

I hope you are finding your treatment helpful and making a good recovery

Oops didn't even spell your name right sorry!

bumparella you are of course right and I know she's really stressed at the moment especially with the heat but I also have a new baby and a preschooler and am equally stressed and tired. Actually really I should be more empathetic (I really am usually and like I said in my op would do anything for her)

You don't need to give water, especially to newborns. I nursed all mine in temps around 40, no one needed water but me. Giving water can cause an electrolyte imbalance in small babies.
Going to all the effort to only give a few drops wouldn't even be worth it, slightly more milk would be fine.
My info comes from being a nurse and a La Leche league leader

But she's not breast feeding and neither am I so that's a moot point.

You could try texting "Which bit of yes, you can give him some cooled boiled water do you not understand?" next time.

Then add an ounce of milk to the bottle. Or uncover him if he looks hot, or wipe his hands and face with a cool facecloth. Lots of ways to cool a hot baby in hot weather without risking any medical problems.
www.babycenter.com/408_when-can-my-baby-drink-water_1368488.bc
Just one paediatrician on giving water to under 6 month olds

She's a new mum. Cut her a little slack and move on.

all new parents are a bit psychotic, be a mate and forgive her.