Neighbours again

[MTBMummy]

I've posted before about my annoying neighbours, but under my old nickname (ProfCoxWouldGetIt) and once again they're managing to wind me up...

I know it's school holidays and kids stay up later, but surely they appreciate that people who share their wall (semi detatched house) may need to get up and go to work?

I went to bed at 11pm last night and the kids next door where still running around, thumping things, screaming, crying and carried on for over 45 minutes until I eventually went and slept in DD's bedroom on the floor so that I could shut the noise out (DD is on the other side of the house)

They know I have to be up at 5am to go to work, as I've had a word with them about it before (they regularly are still up at 10pm during term time - and are exceptionally noisey) I've been round a few times to complain, sometimes their dad isn't there (single parent) and when he is, his comment is that we can't be hearing them as they can't hear us! - Really wtf kind of logic is that???

Do I just have to accept that this is what it'll be like during school holidays, or AIBU expecting them to quieten down after 9pm so other people can watch TV, Unwind, read and go to bed in peace and quiet?

YANBU.

Yanbu to expect some peace and quiet after a certain time. How old are the kids?

How old are the DC?

YANBU either way!

Yanbu if you have already spoken to them about it. The obvious response is to start playing very loud music at 5am, but I'm not really recommending it. Do they own the house or are they tenants? If they are tenants it might be worth having a word with the landlord. Environmental health is the other option, although they probably won't be interested unless it's very late at night.

I think YABU.

If you need peace and quiet don't stay in a semi-detached house full of kids next door. You cannot dictate bedtimes to you neighbours. That is entitled bollocks...as someone who has neighbours who thinks we should go to bed earlier and get up later, just because they do.

You can do other stuff. What about permanently swapping rooms with your DD? Or soundproofing.

Some people have noisy households, get over it or move.

What a stupid post DappyDays.

Op, yanbu.

YANBU It would make me want to vacuum the bedroom nearest their kids at 5am. See how they feel.

The kids are 8, 10 and 13.

They're Housing Assosiation tenants, I know the neighbour across the road has called the police before because one night she was walking passed and heard one of the girls screaming "stop it, Help me" But I've been around before when that's happened and it was just the kids fighting.

I really don't mind the noise during the day, yes it's a pain if I'm working from home, and it makes putting DD (almost 3) to bed a difficult job, but when it gets to that late at night, during the week I think they need to show some consideration.

We can't swap rooms with DD - as her's is the only one on the other side of the house, and when she did sleep in the other room, they would deliberately hit the wall (or on one or two ocassions stand in the garden and throw stones at the windows) so it makes getting her to sleep very difficult as they basically keep her awake.

I have been very tempted to hoover the house first thing in the morning, but it's not fair for me to wake up my DD and DH at 5am because I'm feeling spiteful. I did consider doing it at the weekend (as dd doesn't sleep past 6:30) but it feels a bit tit for tat.

YANBU

I am in a semi detached house, lone parent, 3 children. My older next door neighbours have children at Uni. They work, I don't. My DCs are upstairs and quiet every night by 7/8pm on a school night. In the holidays it is 9pm. They can stay up later if they are in their rooms but are quiet - playing, chatting normally, etc.

If next door have a BBQ at the weekend (not often obviously ) and my DCs are being loud outside or trying to hang over the fence, I get them engaged in other stuff. We have had the odd noisy day or night but I've never had a complaint so it's maybe a bit of give and take. I hope they remember that when I have a major party in 2 weeks time...

It's not hard to be a good neighbour. They sound a bit inconsiderate.

What horrible children they are, throwing stones at the window, little sods!. I'm not sure what your rights are, can you complain to the HA or is that a waste of time.

Actually re-reading, I didn't realise they were deliberately making noise to disturb you. That puts a different slant on it. I thought you were complaining about lively family noise.

Make records and speak to to your local environmental health dept.

My (semi-detached) neighbours chuck bouncy balls at the party wall at 3am (two professional adults) and pogo about when they're pissed because they don't like the noise of us walking about our home. The did it from 2.40am - 3.20am early hours of Sunday just passed. My daughters got up at 8.30am and I suggested to them they try on all my high heels as a game. If I could have been bothered hoovering, I would have.

tiggytape and mintyy I've re-read and posted again. I skim-read first time and it struck a nerve.

"I have been very tempted to hoover the house first thing in the morning, but it's not fair for me to wake up my DD and DH at 5am because I'm feeling spiteful. I did consider doing it at the weekend (as dd doesn't sleep past 6:30) but it feels a bit tit for tat."
Not necessarily spiteful. Just demonstrating to your next door neighbour that the can indeed hear you, should you make any noise!

I would go with the Environmental Health route - you'll find details on the website of your local council.

Yanbu wtf has happened to considering others. Sure there aren't any kids with SN. Somebody had to ask first. I feel your pain.

YANBU. and some of us cant afford to move, do you know how much detatched houses are? ive always tried to be fair and think'ok, its the weekend' etc etc but when its just about every night, no way. yes, people have a right to be themselves in their own house, but the fact that there ARE party walls doesnt mean that they can party!!!! weve had it so much, ive tried to talk nicely to past and pres neighbours as i have an autistic child but no one really cares, theyre selfish and get away with it. its a waste of resources having an enviormental/anti-social/health and safety agency cos they wont ever do anything about it. EVER. and IF they tell bad neighbours theres been complaints well they just do it worse and then what? dog mess thru the letter box or smeared on door? paint thrown on car? tyres slashed? stones thrown? and they always say it wasnt them. its happened to us. and this is the 5th move weve made in 6 years, very unsettling for child and myself. so by all means yanbu. people like us should be moved into our own street!!

I feel your pain, OP! You might consider investing in soundproofing - we are. And for anyone who thinks, just move to a detached house - I would if I could, like a shot!! However, I don't have a spare 600K knocking about at hte mo!

Go round and say that EVERY day the kids are up screaming and shouting past 9pm, that you will be BANGING DOWN THEIR DOOR THE MINUTE YOU GET UP...AT 5 AM

Report them to environmental health, and to the housing association.

Sometimes a detached doesn't help either. In our old house next doors children were outside until gone 11pm last summer playing Mariah Carey's All I Want For Christmas Is Youuuuuu on full blast. Delightful.