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should I phone DS's GF's mum????

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adviseneededasap · 26/07/2012 12:57

long history, but ds (17) has been a nightmare of late; stealing from us, missing college basically taking us for a ride. We have tried many things to try to bring him back to the lad he was and on the face of it seems to have worked but when I dig deeper it hasn't.

Whilst I know that I shouldn't have I have checked his fb messages (the only way he can communicate as I have blocked his phone to outgoing calls texts) after I caught him stealing again (he admitted it to me and said sorry....) to and from his girlfriend and there are things on there that I am not happy about. For instance he owes her mum money, he has made us out to be completely unreasonable and he is the complete innocent in life

He gf is due to be out for an hour and I have found her mum's phone number and I really want to call her to find out how much he owes her and why he was lent money and also to set straight the whole issues - but I only found all this out by snooping and i know that if I do call her then all hell will break loose when ds gets home (hes out with his mates)

what do I do??

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TangoSierra · 26/07/2012 12:59

yes, i would if I was in your shoes. If only to stop her from lending him any more.

ClaireBunting · 26/07/2012 13:00

Call and ask if you can have a coffee somewhere.

Don't have your conversation over the phone.

diddl · 26/07/2012 13:01

I would-so that they know they are unlikely to get the money back & make an informed decision as to whether to give lend more.

Paiviaso · 26/07/2012 13:02

I would speak to her. You don't need to reveal how you got the information.

mayaswell · 26/07/2012 13:02

Yes, I would phone her. I wouldn't say anything negative about him if you can help it, but I would try and get the money situation sorted out.

Then talk to your son. You have my sympathy, btw, I think he's put you in a bad position.

doinmummy · 26/07/2012 13:03

Yes def invite her for a coffee. I think the more your son realises that you are onto him the better. Good Luck

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