to be worried about leaving DS with my mum when i go back to work

[lola88]

I'm back to work in 3 months and my mum has very kindly offered to have DS the 2 days i work it's a great offer and saves me a small fortune in child care plus i like the idea of DS being with family until he's a little older but i'm slightly worried how i can ensure she's not doing things i don't agree with.

The main things are not putting DS down for a nap he gets very over tired and has to be put in his buggy to sleep if not he will not fall asleep on his own just get more and more tired til he's screaming my mums always saying he'll sleep when he's ready but once he's screaming says he needs a sleep. I don't like to leave him until that point.

He is lactose intolerant and i only want him fed what i send she says she's capible of deciding what he can eat but she came in the other day with banana custard pots for him obviously custard is a huge no no. Her reason for thinking they are ok is i buy him the same ones in apple and oats flavour. So i'd worry she won't read the label and just assume it's ok so many things contain milk you wouldn't think of.

She's really bad for giving DN treats a lot and will sneak DS some i have 2 problems with this 1 he's a baby so doesn't need a taste of ice cream or chocolate 2 both have dairy in them so he shouldn't get them anyway.

So wibu to insist on these things when she's doing me such a huge favour? I feel like i can't make demands on her but at the same time these things are a big deal and the only things i would insist on.

Don't forget too that nearly every mum has some anxieties when they first go back to work and leave their baby for the first time. So what you are feeling is totally normal, especially with the lactose intolerance. From what you have said I would definitely stick to your Mum having him, but just talk through the dietary stuff first and tell her that you will provide all meals/drinks/snacks so there won't be any confusion for her and that you won't need to worry.

your DS diet is important and you need to ensure your mum knows this

if you have a good relationship with her, I'm guessing you do if you are leaving ds with her for two days a week, then say to her you dont want to be bossy or hurt her feelings but she needs to know about ds diet or he will be ill

The other things such as naps you have to leave her to it, she will soon find what is best for your ds and what fits in with her

If it isnt working then cm or nursery, but it will be lovely for him to stay with your mum