to judge parents whose children have sunburn?

[StrandedBear]

Seriously there is no need for children (or adults for that matter) to get burnt. It is fairly easy actually, suncream, cover up, stay in the shade between 11 and 3! So when I see a small child with bright red shoulders I want to shake the parents. The sun is dangerous! Then again most of these parents resemble over done lobsters themselves.

Is it a lack of education? Or do they actually not care about the possible damage to themselves and their children?

So sun cream has been linked to CAUSING cancer?!

Interesting. Do we actually know what is in sun cream? What chemicals etc?

YANBU when parents generally can't be bothered and go on about how red burns 'turn into a nice tan in a day or two anyway'. Yes, it's difficult to catch apply suncream to children when they don't want it on and make them wear hats but it should be non-negotiable. This morning I chased a naked 2yo DS around the house, him squealing in delight and smearing suncream all over our lovely painted walls, for at least 15 minutes until I was sure that he was covered all over. Last summer was one long game of 'fetch the sunhat' but this summer he screams at me and puts his hands over his head if I don't put a hat on him between the front door and the car - "MY HEAD WILL BURN, MUMMY! WHERE'S MY HAT?!" DH thinks it's insane but I am rather proud :o

DD was at a sleepover on Saturday night and got home about 11.00 the next day - with a red back, shoulders and arms from having worn a swimsuit, I wasn't happy about it but not much I could do. From now on I will ensure people know dd can't go in the sun without sun cream, but I hope people weren't judging me when I took her out on Monday with red strap marks on her.

I'm talking obvious real redness on shoulders mainly. I am aware that accidents happen, and it doesn't take much to burn. I remember once DD was in the car for 30mins and her leg had gone very sslightly pink. But running around in the sun with sunburn already, yep I'm going to judge.

The sun is not the only place to get vitD from, and you only need 15minutes of exposed ands and face anyway.

I'm sure I've posted on a thread of yours recently Stranded where you were complaining about being sunburnt. Did I dream it?

I'm not being accusatory btw, but this thread rang a bell.

We were in Lanzarote last week. DS2 burnt, unfortunately. He was slathered in factor 50, wore a t-shirt and stayed in the shade, but the pool wasn't in the shade and despite the sun cream saying it was 'extremely waterproof' his shoulders burnt.

So pull your judgey knickers out of your arse and look after your own kids first!

DH by the way is mixed race and never wore suncream when he was a child. He does now as I pointed out to him that that uncomfortable tight, hot feeling accompanied by flaking skin was sunburn

Well, my DD doesn't have a high fat high sugar diet, but she has the occasional sweet, occasional fruit shoot and shock horror, even a sip of my coke from time to time, but her diet is on the whole very healthy, she is NEVER allowed to get sunburned though.

AKMD

TYhe sun is a good place to get Vit D from and if you go we do not get enough in the Uk to last all year. There are findings that the further north from the equator you go the more auto immune disease are found and there is suggestions that the link between vit D from the sun and the lack of it may be a factor

You may need to supplement for Vitamin D, especially in more northerly latitudes in winter. This is safe, and the amount required is in ordinary OTC multivitamins.

There is however no such thing as safe sunburn, and childhood is when most unsafe exposure occurs. Skin cancer is a horrible condition.

My DCs have not yet (touch wood) burnt yet (youngest is now 8). You do need to use sunscreen, clothing which actually blocks rays (and much loose weave summery stuff doesn't) or simply stay out of the sun. Or accept you are putting your children at greater risk of later cancer.

yanbu
I also judge deeply tanned children.

my dc wear polo shirts (for better coverage in the neck) and have sunscreen on from about half hour after going into the sun. we need the vit d after all.

Stay in the shade between 11 and 3? So, on the very rare day of sunshine, keep all children indoors for the main part of the day, and don't go anywhere? Are you quite mad?

AKMD

showofhands Mmm. I think it was a thread about that old chestnut of falling asleep in the sun.

Of course, OP, I could be wrong and it could have been someone else. There are so many threads on here about feckless bastards getting sunburnt that it all blurs into one after a while.

A child who is bright red can be suffering from prickly heat-
the skin doesn't persire as it should.No amount of suncream will help, and plastering on a thick,greasy cream can aggrevate it.

But if you see the red child, you'll think "Sunburn"

I'm going to get those Aussie style wetsuity long leg/arm suits. Much prefer that to gallons of sumblock. But till I get those suits... Hello factor 50!

Yes I got burnt the last time it was sunny, I was out with DD plastered her in it and forgot about myself. Felt like a twat and judged myself for being a twat, and rightly so. Second time in 23years I have burnt.

I think it is terrible to see and obviously if it was all the time and people didn't care or joked about it then I may judge.
BUT everyone is capable of making errors of judgement or even just careless mistakes.
My DD got sun burn on her arm last year, aged 9y. She had cream on but we must have missed a spot. None of us realised until it was too late. Luckily it wasn't too bad. I felt bad about it but it wasn't done through neglect or not caring.

We normally use all day suncream and slaver it on first thing. but this time we were caught out a bit, used normal cream and just didn't quite get it right. Sadly errors happen. Doesn't mean we don't care or are neglectful.

YANBU if they are on the beach on holiday in beach weather.

However, if DC get slightly red because they are making the most of a nice spring day, YABU.

my DD was in highest sun factor from boots so all the ratings are 5 star, she hasnt burnt but has still got very brown arms, i literally slather it on her.

You can train them all you like, the chances of a 12yo always remembering to put sunscreen on, let alone wear a hat (other than a baseball cap) are minimal.

YABU.

What's the cut off, OP, agewise?