To not want to be friend's plus one at wedding of mutual friend who didn't invite me?

[Margerykemp]

'friend' A is getting married soon. I've known her on and off for 25 years. Got friendlier c.5 years ago and went out for dinner together every once in a while. Also went to same parties etc and chatted. For some reason in last year and a half she has gone cold. Stopped texting. Didn't invite me to significant birthday. No invite to hen night or upcoming wedding. (but maybe got vibes that I don't think much of her fiancé but have never said anything to her face)

Now mutual friend B, who I am much closer to has had her date for the wedding cancel and wants me to go.

I'd feel quite weird about it. But friend b is insistent that she has no one else to ask.

YANBU. Don't go. An invitation is just that...friend B has invited you. You can decide whether to go or not. Personally I don't understand people who try and make you do something you clearly don't want to do....I'd rather have someone with me who wanted to be there.

Hell no. I wouldn't go. How awkward would that be? Why cant your friend go on her own? You always get chatting to people at weddings. Your friend is only thinking of herself.

No. Definitely not.

Hell no!

its quite a difficult one, there may not be any problem with you just life moving on iyswim, I don't see some friends for months, I dont have a problem with them and if I do see them everything would be fine, with the wedding it could be simply a numbers thing.

Could you email friend A and explain that friend B wants you to come as her +1 but you dont want to make her uncomfortable or upset her on her big day? make sure you say you wont be offended if she doesn't want you there

If the invite was specifically for "friend B and [insert name]" and not "friend B plus guest" then its really not up to friend B to be picking her own plus 1. The B&G should decide.

so you dont like friend a's fiance - tbh not surprised she didnt invite you to their wedding

dont go

Enorma- oh no yuk! He's an arse! Last time I saw friend a she said her fiancé told her she was still a virgin really cos had never been fisted. I mean ffs what kind of person says something like that.

Friend b was going to go with her boyfriend but they have split up. Don't think he would have been named on invite as neither bride or groom knows him.

Friend a didn't even invite me to her hen do, which was just drinks in a pub so wouldn't have costed her anything. So she obv doesn't want me around regardless of the wedding cost argument.

I'm not going to go. I just want to be able to convince friend b that I'm being reasonable.

if she is as good as a friend you say she was/known for years and if you miss her then maybe send her a text to say congrats and have a nice wedding day and break the ice/offer an olive branch

sometimes we dont like the partners our friends chose, but they must have something special about them to make our friends fall in love with them tho he does sound an arse about the fisting