To want to kick godparent ass

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This is a petty thread and not one I'm proud of but exdp and I were made joint godparent of his nephew just before he walked out on me.

Said god child is turning one next week and I want to send something to say I'll never forget him despite him being on their side of the family.

What would you send that the little one will really like but also sends the message of me moving on and being a woman of my own means. His mother is a childminder so has all the standard equipment

You can't move on from being a child's Godparent. You have a job for life.

If that's not what you meant, sorry.

If you don't want to get him a toy, then how about a special ornament. I'll try to link.

I dont suppose you will be remembered or spoken about if you don't see the child or partake in his life. The child isn't a point scoring exercise for you to get back at your ex eg me moving on and being a woman of my own means.

Why does your godson need to know you are "moving on and being a woman of my own means"? Or is it that you are going to use this event to communicate that message to your ex? If so, YABU.

If not, buy your godson a big boat he can use in the bath and in the paddling pool (as long as this weather lasts!) Whilst he might not grasp the concept of you "moving on and being a woman of my own means" he'll enjoy the boat

Some cute things here

I don't understand what you mean. Are you intending to continue to be part of your godson's life or not?

I'm sure your Godson will really appreciate you using his birthday to score points.

something named, like a personalised alphabet table mat. No idea what you mean by something to show you are moving on, just thinking of something unique and specail for a little one whos mother already has all atandard equipment.

I recognise in hindsight how silly this thread is. Will buy the little one as best a present as I can and forget his godfather. Thanks for the levelheadedness am a freakin basket case right now

Good for you - it's not often that people realise they've been a basketcase and are prepared to admit it :o. Hope you're doing OK.

Well done for your awareness. As Bobyan said, your Godson will really appreciate you using his birthday to score points. It means he will get better presents, especially if your ex plays the game too. Instead of one crappy present form both of you, he has years of competative present buying from both of you to look forward to.

To really prove you have moved on, ring your ex and suggest buying a joint present!

I do understand the moving on part. You're aware that the ex will see what youve bought and your concerned that he will see this gift giving as a sign that you are hankering after the past and him as opposed to the fact that you are a nice lady who wants to buy her godson a gift.

FWIW childrens presents cannot give off an air of aloofness, independence or moving on lol. Bless you, just buy him something nice. x

That's very gracious of you OP, why not pick something personal rather than expensive, like a framed cast of his hand or something?
After money can't buy you taste!

Sounds a bit silly to me. Why can't you just get him a nice present and act normal on his birthday. If you really cared about him you wouldn't want to put him in a position where he is stuck in the middle of a point scoring match between you and your ex.