to cut the grass at 2pm on a weekday afternoon

[workshy]

apparently I am

next door have got their grand daughter staying for 2 weeks -I didn't know
she is a toddler and naps 2-3 -I didn't know

apparently she has missed her afternoon nap because I cut the grass

neighbour has asked me not to make noise in the garden during this time, or hoover the rooms adjoining their house (low hum, thick walls, very little noise transfer)

she has also asked me not to smoke in the garden while GD is there, apparently she has been meaning to ask me anyway as it's offensive -I have a 50ft garden, smoke at the bottom end, so about 60ft away from her house and I have a maximum of 3 a day and yes I know smoking is a filthy habbit but it's not illegal and I don't smoke if anyone else is out in their garden

WIBU to write her a list of all the things that she does that annoys me?

I would ignore if I were you.

Mind you, I did ask our neighbour to keep the noise down yesterday evening. She was drilling her new washing line into our party wall outside at 8pm, it had taken me ages to get heat-rash DD to go to sleep so I really didn't want her woken.

Losingitall
Then you'd have to put the washing machine on at 10pm to wash your filthy sheets and hang all your leather and stud pervy undercrackers on the line just to see her cats bum mouth

I'd tell her where to go.

I work nights and have been three days this week....thats after every shift!

I just accept it as one of those things, it's sunny, people want to use their garden! I've had tree cutters, kids in the paddling pool and grass cutting.

If their gd is such a light sleeper, it's their issue, not yours.

I work nights and would not dream of telling people they couldn't go about their daily lives so I can sleep!!

I would have been worried if my DCs could not sleep through that when they were toddlers. They need to learn to sleep with noise around them.

Ignore it and get on with your life.

I think she is being rather precious about the lawnmowing but if this is a short visit and it doesn't inconvenience you then I'd be inclined to go along with her request rather than have an altercation. However, it isn't reasonable for your life to be unhelpfully affected because of her grandchild so I see no reason why you should be forced into some sort of silent regime between 2 and 3.

It's nonsense to ask you to stop smoking at the bottom of your own 50 foot long garden, however. There's no way this can affect the precious grandchild.

A weekday afternoon is a perfectly reasonable time to mow - unless you have a huge lawn it won't take long.

I use a push mower.
Its almost silent.
NO WORRIES

She's being quite unreasonable. Normal daily activities can't stop because of her grandchild I'm afraid.; you weren't doing anything unusual or extra noisy. It's not like you were having a big noisy party or something (like a DIY project) that's gonna go on every day for the next few weeks.

Smile, ignore and carry on as usual.

YANBU and I find it hard to believe that the child wouldn't sleep through lawn mowing anyway, my DD went down for her nap fine a couple of days ago despite the neighbour cutting their hedge with a power trimmer and her bedroom facing onto that side of the house, I expect I would have been told to fuck off if I had suggested he stop so she could sleep in peace. And suggest that you will stop smoking in your garden if she stops lighting fires in hers, she doesn't really have a leg to stand on with that one.

They need to learn to sleep with noise around them.

yes - people who do a lot of shushing around infants are asking for trouble. My DD has always been impervious to noise, probably helped by being exposed to barky dog from in utero.

YANBU, I would carry on smoking however you want and I may, albeit grudgingly, try not to make noise in the afternoon. I would do this just to keep the peace.

I hate the smell of ciggie smoke but it's your garden. I use a barbeque a lot and I am aware that not everyone appreciates the smell.

(I first read your post as 2am and I had to admit I did then think YABU. )

How were you to know she mnapped then ?? And anyway if she was tired IME they sleep through anything how old is she ??

YANBU at all

what a ridiculous complaint

if i was you id now start a bonfire lol

My neighbour gets supersensitive about what I do in my garden when she has her grandchildren around. From the number of times she refers to 'our grandchildren' during these conversations, I infer that what she is really doing is stealth boasting about having grandchildren.

Asking you not to smoke in your own garden is a bit much! Dh works nights and I do really appreciate our neighbours keeping tabs on when he's sleeping and not cutting grass/using power tools when he is. We've never asked them to do this, they are just very considerate. I don't think holding off the lawnmower for an hour a day for a couple of weeks is all that much to ask. (I thought grass was better cut in the evening so it doesn't get scorched anyway?!)

My nextdoor neighbour smokes in her garden.

I quite like it

Your neighbour is being an idiot.

Next time you mow the lawn at 2pm, you might want to have the radio on. You'll need it nice and loud of course so you can hear it over the mower.

If 2pm is the only time you can mow then tough for her, otherwise I'd do it at another time. Hoovering, she can stop bein ridiculous! If her pfb grandchild can't sleep through some faint noise they should start training her to get used to it!!

YANBU to smoke in your own garden. I don't smoke, I hate smoke, my neighbours smoke just outside their door and it gets in the house, but I would never dream of telling then they couldn't smoke on their own premises.

Your neighbour should come and stay in my house for a week, She'd realise how lucky she is to live next to someone as polite as you.
My dh works 12hr night shifts and my neighbours on one side are well aware of this, yet it doesn't stop them putting their toddlers in a paddling pool for 7 hours at a stretch where they scream and shout. It also doesn't stop them inviting friends round at least 5 days per week to drink wine/beer from mid morning and get increasingly loud. It also doesn't occur to them that their foul smelling iceland burgers cooked at regular intervals throughout the day may be irritating when I can't put any washing out due to the smoke and smells.

Some people don't know how lucky they are