Afternoon sleeps

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AIBU? Having had our lives curtailed by DS during his baby/toddler years and afternoon sleep routine, we are relishing our freedom now that he's older and we can stay out all day, ie beach trips, fun days out, more flexibility etc. Infact now that he's 5 and on school holidays, we've just had a fantastic holiday where he stayed up later than usual and we, as a family, didn't have to rush home for tea at 6, bath at 7pm etc etc. However, AIBU - gran has just decided that SHE needs afternoon sleeps now as she gets
up at 6am so everytime she wants to see DS we have to fit round her routine. She lives locally - i'm not talking the odd family visit which would be unreasonable.
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How old is Gran? Lots of people like to have a nap in the daytime, especially as they get older. How often do you take your son to see her?

You all sound a bit crazy and inflexible though.

Have you spent the last 5 years keeping to a strict routine????

go and see his gran in th morning before you go out for the day i am sure in your sons routine couldnt be broken when he was a baby , I dont see why you are causing a fuss if you are going out go out and tell her you will see her in the morning or early evening on your way home , some folk like a nap give her a break,

My GPs used to have afternoon sleeps, I remember staying with them for two weeks every summer when I was wee and when they had their sleep, I would play in the garden, read, draw, do all the things I now encourage my DC to do when I'm busy cooking/ cleaning. They were asleep, but not unavailable if a wasp flew in I needed them.

So you don't plan more DCs.

Well Granny can nap in the car if you are out, or she doesn't go out with you, or you just pop in to see her in the morning.

Why can't you just go over before or after gran's naps? I'm not sure you've really gotten your question clearly across here...

I'm also struggling to understand the actual problem, but if you mean Granny's nap time stops you taking your son to see her in the afternoon, then presumably you can arrange to see her first thing then go on to do all the other fun stuff afterwards?

tbh i cant see why you would have lived with such mad inflexibility while ur son was younger-children generally dont spontaneously combust or something cos tea is late!! i think theres a study there on effects of v strict routines as compared to opposite on later life;)

Forgot to say that i have older DDs as well - we're not entirely rigid but when you' ve got 4kids it's easier to be fairly strict on time keeping otherwise we'd be all over the place. Insuppose what i meant to say is that gran wants to join in on familynstuff which is grat, but now she wants to only go out for a couple of hours and then go home for a rest, whereas we would have stayed out for the whole afternoon as well.

Oh ok well let her come on certain days you didnt really make it clear tell her you will be out all day does she want to come stress it is all day though, and maybe go out with her a few hours local a day or so a week,

Ah I see. So give her the choice if you're planning an all-day outing, making it clear you will be out all day. Presumably not every single activity you do will be all day so invite her along for some morning-only outings? If she does want to come out all day occasionally, can she go back to the car and nap there, then catch up with the rest of you?

II31 - they do not spontaneously combust although they generally melt in the rain.

OP - there isn't a lot you can do, other than fit around her new routine. It may be a PITA, but she will obviously have shorter visits as a result.