To think this was an inauspicious start to a pregnancy massage?

[Mummyof3tobe]

I arrived for this long awaited treat to myself....

Massage therapist: How many months are you? 6? 7?
Me: I'm almost 5 months.
Massage therapist: Oh. Twins?
Me: No.
Massage therapist: Just a big boy then!
Me: We don't know what we're having.
Massage therapist: OK. Well just lie down and relax...

Not feeling very relaxed at all.

I'm not particularly big and it is my third! Grrr....I should be used to random comments but you'd think in her line of work she'd know better.

Rant over.

Pretty justified rant I'd say, how lovely to be made to feel so self consious when you're about to virtually bare all to a stranger! Sounds quite abrupt and unprofessional, and I'm a pregnancy massage therapist. I try to never assume anything about someone's pregnancy and make a point to ask open questions about a clients pregnancy and health, the client is there to feel great and leave feeling even better. Hope the massage itself made up for it!

TBF her estimate of 6 months was only one month out, it's hardly like she made foghorn noises to guide you to the massage table...

While it shouldn't have been a big deal, I agree with Ginia, she needs to let the conversation be client led, not therapist led! Simply asking how far along, and how you are feeling, and where you need most help is best! Everyone carries differently, OP and I have been asked lately (by someone who doesn't know I'm preggo) if I am ok, because "well, it seems you're maybe stressed, are you exercising?" Subtext is of course that I am getting fat! Still wearing my regular clothes, but that will change soon.

Yes, horribly rude, I'm 4 months pregnant! She was horrified when I told her I was actually getting fat, but it would all be gone when the baby was born!

I sympathise! When I was pregnant with my DD, a sales assistant in M & S looked at me and asked how many months I was, then told me I was huge - it must be a boy! I was so embarrassed and felt that she really shouldn't have made such a personal comment

[GRIN]at foghorn noises.

YAB a tenny bit U. She was being a tad insensitive but I think this is a double combo of hormones and heat. I sympathise I was hugely pregnant (really was huge rather than someone saying so) during a very hot summer and therefore extremely grumpy.

I feel for you.

I am 24 weeks pg today and went to the nursery to pick up DD. I saw one of the carers I havent seen for a while and she was saying congrats, blah, blah and when is it due. I said the first week of November and she said "Oh my god, you are enormous, I thought you were going to say next week. You look like you have a football shoved up your dress. Imagine how huge you are going to be by November, you wont fit through the door."

Cheers for that.

It was definitely exacerbated by heat and hormones! But didn't help me relax and enjoy my treatment - I just felt hot AND irritated. Still she had to massage my slightly swollen ankles so I probably shouldn't moan too much.

Can't say I'll rush back there for any more pregnancy pampering though....

There are some people who seem to think it's a compliment to tell women how big they are, aren't there? Still it was daft of her as you'd think once she'd got it wrong she'd take it as a sign to steer the conversation to other things!

I hope you feel a bit more relaxed all the same. It should be the law that anyone who's pregnant in this weather gets a prescription of ice water, right?

Sorry OP but it made me laugh. It's like a comedy sketch of what NOT to say.

I'm sorry if your massage wasn't relaxing, and I really really think you should say something to the manager (not in a spiteful way, but constructively, so she never does that again).

When I was five months pregnant I needed a bra. The fitter (who was about twelve) looked at me and said "Jesus! Are your boobs normally like that?!". It was so crazily, dementedly rude I ended up in fits of giggles and had to stomp out of the shop holding my sides and gasping for breath. My husband, bless him, was so offended on my behalf that he threatened to "give them a piece of my mind".

I'm sure you're not even close to huge, and probably looking rather beautiful.