To think downstairs are being twats, and to buy DD a pair of tap shoes?

[StrandedBear]

We are visiting DP at his flat, it is a single occupancy due to being a 1 bed, though the advert did state that it COULD accommodate a child.

Anyway downstairs have complained to the AGENT about DD making too much noise. Now I wouldn't have minded as much if they had rang the buzzer and said something but they have gone to the agent. Agency have said nothing to do with them as we are just visiting.

DD get up at 7.30 and is in bed by 7, I don't allow her to jump or stomp, she might occasionally run up and down but I do try and stop this too. I am generally mindful of making too much noise, but this has SERIOUSLY pissed me off.

So WIBU to buy DD some tap shoes and let her practice in the flat?

DD is 2.5

It seems a bit of an overreaction on their part, how long have you been there? I'd just carry on as you are and ignore it, what else can you do!?

Yes YWBU to get the tap shoes, you're just visiting, DP has to live there so probably won't appreciate you antagonising them, although they are probably BU complaining about the noise levels, although toddlers can be noisy living in flats means you have to live with others' everyday noises to some extent.

Does the flat have laminate or wooden floors? Because if it does, even tiptoes will sound like a herd of elephants downstairs. It must be bad, or why would they complain? If they've never complained before about the everyday noise your DP makes, it must be the extra noise that's tipped them over so to speak. Excessive noise can really destroy quality of life, and you are BU to even think about deliberately making more noise out of spite.

You need to find out how bad the noise is for them. They may have been perfectly entitled to go to the Agents.

They are at work all day they leave a 6am (wake us up with ther door) and get back at 4/5 and DD goes to bed at 7.

They complained the last time we were here (we were here for 3 weeks) and DP got a call earlier to say they have complained again but we have been here since sunday. All carpets.

I', just really annoyed that they went to the agent and not to me. I'd have been very apologetic, but instead it's got my back up. We are WELL within normal times. And surely you cant expect to have silence in a downstairs flat?

Don't get the tap shoes! But also don't let them bother you too much if you know you are just making normal levels of noise... Your dp has an upstairs flat, they have a downstairs flat, there will be transfer of noise. As long as it is not unreasonable levels of noise, then it's just life IMO!

Noise travells downwards. Unless you have been in the downstairs flat you have no idea how loud it can be.

If it is all carpets, tap shoes won't work. Buy her a trumpet or drum kit instead.

It sounds as if you are doing your best to be a good neighbour, and I would be very pissed off, in your position, that they went straight to the agent - that is not neighbourly.

Maybe it's actually you stomping around with your big feet, and not your DD at all.

Sorry, I'm bored.

I think that the times you mention are reasonable to have noise.

We live in flats, all floorboards no carpets. Fortunately our downstairs neighbour is slightly deaf so isn't bothered by DS. Our upstairs neighbours though irritate us, although nothing we can complain about. They just walk about a lot and it's very noisy...and often they wake DS up at midnight/2am/4am etc. God knows why they're up at this time (retired couple) but they are.

I think your neighbour needs to suck it up. It's one of the disadvantages of living in flats.

On the other hand, how noisy are you at the weekends?

I feel sorry for you.

Its nearly impossible to stop a child that age making foot sounds, I remember when I had 2 little ones in a flat.

The lady upstairs was SO unreasonable , every time my newborn woke for a night feed she would blast her music from her flat!

She might have been insane to do that, but, it made me very nervous.

I wonder if you DD wore slippers sometimes that might help? I know its hot :) but they do tend to walk a little slower in them.

Good luck.

OP, I feel your pain. My downstairs neighbours are the same, only they don't bother with the agent/landlord. Ironically, ever since we moved in, THEY have been much louder. Playing music so loud it made the floor vibrate, slamming doors at all hours, faffing about and revving their car right outside ... I didn't complain, I took it as part and parcel of living in a flat, even if they did wake up DS and drive me mad with their thumpthumpthump music.

Now they do it to "punish" us if they think DS is being too loud. I actually live in fear of them now, since one of them started threatening and being abusive towards me in my own back garden. I had to call the police, as he threatened to set his dog on my (then 1yo) DS This is the same dog they claim is "scared" by any noise my DS makes

I hate having to yell at DS, he's a very heavy-footed child so I can't let him run in the house and I can't explain why I wish I could move, but we were so lucky to get this place, we'd never get another.

My advice, OP, is do NOT engage. Ignore, ignore, ignore, just get on with your life, as long as you're not making excessive noise they haven't got a leg to stand on.