My DH has become very distant from me lately, I have PND and my mood is improving.
Every morning before DH went to work he used to kiss me and DS goodbye, he now doesn't. He leaves 30 minutes earlier than he needs to and told me "It's much better being at work than at home".
I cannot remember the last time he wanted to show me any affection and we haven?t had sex for over a month (I have asked for it many times) and his excuse for not wanting to be "I can't be bothered".
I lay in bed every night reading and ask him to come to bed to "Talk" about what is wrong hoping that it would lead onto something however he says "It?s boring" and spends the night watching TV and exercising.
He has never been bothered about exercising before but he has suddenly became obsessed with it, He gets home and that is all he says "I better be able to do my exercises tonight" He hasn?t put on any weight and seemed quite happy over a month ago.
The exercising doesn?t bother me of course I would prefer him to be happy in himself but every night I go to bed when DS does because DH "Claims" the TV and the room to do his exercises and doesn?t want me in there whilst he is doing them and I always fall asleep before he comes to bed.
I have asked if he would like to book a weekend at a spa so we could just get away together and he said "We spend time together at home every day" so he doesn?t feel the need to spend time with me out of the home.
I probably am BU but the sudden change in behaviour makes me a bit suspicious, He has always wanted to see his friends alone ever since we have been together and I have only met them 2 times since being with him.
I have never got on with his family (Long story) and they really are the only people I have ever found it hard to even talk to, they hate me but I am civil for my DH's sake.
I have continuously asked DH for an explanation for the change of behaviour towards me and he says "I don't know, I just find you annoying lately"
I was constantly tired when being diagnosed with PND and did end up lying in bed a lot as I was also under observation and has various blood tests for a suspected lump (It turned out to be fine, I had my results yesterday) which also made me extremely tired so I just ended up sleeping so he did have to look after DS when he got back from work which I do think has something to do with it. I have been ill since being on my anti-depressants (Making me sick and tired with excessive sweating) so I have been laying down a lot and he tells me ?You never want to go out, Your lazy? Which isn?t true, I love getting out but running to the toilet during the day makes me not want to, I have this for another 4 weeks and then i am going back to the doctor who tells me to "Please put up with it as your mental health is improving".
I asked if he wanted me to go and stay with family for a week or so so he could "think" and they could help me with DS and he said "You better not, I don't run a fucking hotel where you can just come and go" and left it at that.
I have no idea what else to do, He doesn?t talk, Show affection or want to have sex which IMO is a big part to a relationship.
So AIBU to think something is going on and should I be worried?