To want to tell people to fuck off with their comments?

[LittleSugaPlum]

Im 28weeks pregnant. I was a size 14 pre pregnancy size, so therefore im showing full term, as had alittle tummy before i fell pregnant.

However i also suffer with PGP (Pelvic Girdle Pain), so i sometimes walk slowly, or sort of "waddle". I also look like im struggling getting in and out the car (which i do).

I know i do look big for 28 weeks, i look like i have around 3 weeks left!

However im getting quite irritated with peoples comments, even shop assistants are commenting, and it goes something like this...

Eye's up my tummy, then they smile and say "How long have you got left?"
Two and a half months i reply. They then have this really shocked expression and reply "Wow you look like your ready to have her, i thought you was full term!" [embarrassed]

I then go waddling away feeling massive and like a big elephant!

This is now happening whenever i go out.

The landlord came round today (he lives on the same street) but was talking to my DH at the front door (he didnt come in) and my DH was mentioning that the baby would be arriving at our busiest time of year for work etc. The landlord then asked when i was due. October i heard my DH reply.

Landlords reply...

"OMG, really???? Shes massive isnt she? I mean she looks full term!" still in his very shocked voice.

"I saw her struggling to get in her car the other day, she looks like shes ready to give birth!"

I was sat in the lounge at the time so overheard all this - i was cringing with embarassment.

DH did tell the landlord that i was measuring 28 as i should be, and im struggling to get about as its been a difficult pregnancy, and i am having weekly physio.

The landlord said nothing else and the subject was changed.

AIBU to be getting rather fed up with peoples comments, raised eyebrows etc. Im starting to get upset by it, and may just stay indoors for the rest of my pregnancy :-(

Lie! Say you are due tomorrow.

They will either never see you again. Or if they do see you again, just repeat the same as you said previously.

They'll get the hint.

You sure there's only one in there OP ?

Just ignore them, I was massive too, had a bump from about 4 months and looked ready to drop from about 6 months, try not to take it to heart, people say all kinds of interfering daft things to pregnant women.

over i sometimes got asked if i was expecting before i was pregnant too, very embarrassing!

I needed maternity clothes at 8 weeks pregnant! [embarrassed]

ruby did you end up having a big baby?

yanbu but in the big scheme of things it doesn't matter.

People always have their comments to make when you're pregnant when I was pregnant everyone just kept commenting on how small my bump was and how they were much bigger. When I was 39 weeks people would say I only looked 6 months pregnant. People even said that I was going to have a small baby but he was a whopper.

Just smile and humour them or tell peope you're only 3 months pregnant that will shock them.

To you you're sick of hearing it but to them they're just making conversation.

She was biggish, but not massive, an 8lber.

Just look on it as a practise run for motherhood, people feel free to comment on your parenting techniques forevermore once the baby's here (I was once told in a shop that DD was crying because she wasn't breastfed, quite how that woman could tell that from watching me push her in the buggy I have no idea) so practise the vague smile and disinterested "oh really?" They will come in handy.

Or you could try "bloody hell, I think that was a contraction..." and watch them go
and then run away.

I always found "I'm not pregnant, just fat" to be the best response to strangers. Slightly trickier with friends and family admittedly, But like Chazs suggestion!

Well, it's hard to say.

I don't any more as I've heard people don't like it but I have commented on people's bumps but I always mean it really nicely, just as in "oh lovely bump, nice big healthy baby!" sort of thing, I don't mean "fat cow!"

I said to a colleague who I don't know well the other day "Oh, can't be long for you now!" and it turned out it was November. [oops] and I also enquired politely thinking someone was 5 months - she was full term. Some bumps are just prominent - mine was very big with DD1 but the rest of me was slim. Please don't be offended. x

I would tell them there are 5 in three or I'm trying to give octomum a run for her money.

I know its annoying but who gives a fuck. Just give them an eye roll.

I never show, my bump was always tiny. I had people implying I'm starving the baby, or am I sure about my dates?! As well as other various helpful comments. I normally just said I'm growing a pygmy or something similar. It was as equally irritating.

I didn't even realise I was pregnant the first time until 6 months in and it wasn't for a pregnancy test taken as part of a procedure I don't know if I would have noticed until the birth.

YANBU. With dd2 I was constantly being told how small I was, and obviously I was so small because I was starving myself and doing too much exercise
Even after I'd given birth I had people asking me how many weeks early she was..in fact she was 4 days late.
It's annoying but I find that people always have to comment and get their point heard...unfortunately it doesn't stop once you've given birth!
Try not to let it get to you too much