Was family member U or was her comment warranted?

[incompetentandunprofessional]

At a family BBQ yesterday, I was telling some family members that I had given DS (who I am about to begin weaning) a suck of a piece of watermelon.

I use a Nuby, it's a handle with a little net attached at the end so you can put fruit etc in it and the baby can suck on the fruit without risking them swallowing anything. DS thinks it's great!

Anyway I was lightheartedly explaining that shortly after having a good old suck on the watermelon DS had possitted (sp?) and how I had briefly panicked because there was a bit of red in his vomit before realising that it was watermelon juice.

Another family member, who wasn't part of the discussion but must have been listening, looked over and began exclaiming 'and you're a professional, that's really worrying' (repeating it until everyone had overheard). She meant that as I am a professional job, it is worrying that clearly I am so incompetent in RL.

I can't see how I have acted incompetently or in any way that would have any reasonable person worried that I should not be in a professional role!

I was talking about my relations, not you. Are you always this thin-skinned?

Was she being sarcastic? And was she referring to the fact you used the nuby or the fact you thought the juice was blood?
FWIW I used a nuby too, and either way the person is an arse

Spuddy, I get similar comments. Anything that can be remotely linked to my job seems to be fair game!

Fallen - 'I have relatives like you'

We missed these on the market, but I thought they looked like a good idea.

I think the relative probably thought she was being funny and repeated it as she didn't raise a laugh the first time she said it.

Mince - she was referring to the fact that I thought that the juice was blood. And no, she wasn't being sarcastic! She was voicing her concern that anyone as thick as me could have an average job!

You mean relatives that let you do what you like with your own children without passing comment?
Oh good.

Chill! I think Fallens comments were light hearted, and not meant to upset you - and I know what she means....my youngest is 12, and on a recent visit to Mothercare with a friend (who is the same age as me - v old - and is unexpectedly expecting a 3rd dc, after a gap of 9 years), we both wandered around in a state of complete confusion, picking things up and wondering aloud as to their purpose.....I imagine my mum felt much the same when my 2 were babies!

Fallen - the AIBU wasn't about the relative advising me about the Nuby! Maybe I should rejig the initial post.

Gave DS a suck on a piece of watermelon.
There was red in his sick.
My initial thought was 'shit he's vomitted blood'.
Then realised it was watermelon juice.
Relative's stance on this is that it is worrying that people like me exist in professional jobs as I am clearly an incompetent parent for panicking in the first place.

2blessed - I too have no idea what the majority of gadgets/equipment are used for. I welcome advice from family members and friends about anything baby related (except nuggets eg from grandmother 'give him a rusk' at 3 weeks old etc)

YANBU, what an odd comment. Ignore.

DS's nursery nearly called an ambulance once because his poo was black (sign of internal bleeding). It was blueberries! Good thing another member of staff double-checked. I can just see the paramedics' faces :o

Blueberries! Pooberries !

She was unreasonable. I didn't bother with those nuby things because i did blw, although i did consider it with my first, but decided i didn't want the faff of cleaning it. But your relative was rude, what was she expecting might happen? I'd ignore her. I found relatives were so quick to judge and interfere, esp with the first. Fortunately they gave up with that on my second. It was a major source of annoyance at the time though.