to hate the cliquey mums where I live???

[ChiefCleanerandPickerupper]

I'm a SP but I honestly don't know if this is the issue or not, I'm 34 very independant, had a decent career before having DD partied hard, worked hard and now find myself in no mans land!

made a few friends whilst pregnant who have just wandered off in their own groups. One "friend" tagged onto me while pregnant tortured my every living moment and has now quite happily dropped me for aforementioned bitches!
I couldn't give a shit but feel sorry for DD who has no family in the area and is an only child.

basically I need to vent as I feel its like school time bullying and it fucking pisses me right off! I've got my own friends but feel like boiling a rabbit when someone excludes my child

But it still works that way now if you want it to.

My 3 kids play in the street and I live in a shit area compared to a lot of others.

But it's not about that. It's about not trying too hard and not convincing yourself that you need 'Mummy friends' (pukes...lol)

You don't need these people in order to be a 'normal' Mum so if they piss you off...cut them out and don't look back.

thanks worra seeing all these replies puts things in perspective! I don't need the mummy friends tbh just want my DD to have friends in area! as complexo said things change at nursery which is september

Thank you for your comments (positive and negative) I'm off to bed to contemplate my aggressiveness and unfriendliness...

You say you couldnt give a shit when clearly you do. Its this exact "fronting" ability that you have perfected which probably puts people off.

To clarify my earlier post. If that woman was a torture why do you care that she has moved on? If you are so uncaring of the situation surely you can just tell her to get stuffed when she calls round.

I dont think its these women that are the problem. I think you feel isolated, lonely and tired. Stop focusing on these women and make friends with entirely different people. Its not easy I know.

And also, your DD is only 3. Soon she will go to preschool and then school. Dont beat yourself up that she has no friends. She has plenty of opportunity to make friends in the next while.

I meant everyones comments in general, not worralibertys, who was very helpful!

I totally understand the need to 'make friends for your child' because I felt that with my first DS.

But honestly, experience has taught me to butt out and stop all that because your child will choose her own friends and other children will choose her too.

Just spend time in the company of people you actually enjoy, whether they have kids of their own or not.

Soon enough, your DD will have a better social life than you!

I'm being helpful?

It's definitely time for bed then

You are a threat.

Kick someone when they are down whydontya!

wannabedomesticgoddess you're right I am lonely and tired, isolated no! The reason I haven't told her to do one is she keeps turning up at my house with tales of woe regarding her husabnds failed business, her throwing him out of the house despite only being married a year, her son being hospitalised 4 times this year and being on life support.

She trusts me and I have never broken her trust, I may not be included in her "gang" but I can't tell her to do one when I know she has noone else to talk to and trusts me explicitly. Add MUG to my list of faults please. I also know all she says is true we live in a small town as I already said.

mrsJREwing hee hee!

She uses you as her councillor and just invade she becomes a lone parent too. When things are good she's off with the married Mums. Don't answer the door to that two faced user again.

Or...carry on being kind, because she appreciates your support? There's worse things in life than being a mug. Not giving a shit, as an example.

mrs you're so right hence why I called her the torturer early! I'm too bloody soft I know she uses me but feel sorry for her at the same time

Your DD will make her own friends soon...when she starts school. I was like you...didnt fit in.

My DDs were both just fine when it came to school and friends...yours will be too.

Can I just say...not all areas have kids out playing worra....mine do...but theyre the only ones.

Nobody follows suit and we are not weird or anything. We have other friends but it would be SO nice if the DC had local kids to play with.

again thank you all I'm definitely in need of my bed also kiss thanks for making me feel un-abnormal! mrs you get a hug for making me feel better! thanks!

Op please don't get upset, as wise women say this too will pass, you will be fine and dd will be fine. If they are truly excluding you then their loss. Dd will choose her own friends and you just choose yours and not just because they have kids for play dates.

I am a lone parent and was married for a long time before, so I have seen this from both sides, she's taking advantage, and you must have relished adult company.