to make a ground rules list for potty training?? to ask for ideas??

[lastnerve]

I am going to start potty training, my ds is nearly 3 I have on and off been trying for years and uphill struggle is an understatement. IF you try and sit him on the potty he screams and any suggestion is met with no.

I have decided to try nappy less or 'big boy pants' underpants in the house first. going out will need a nappy on as he is nowhere near ready for that yet he does have SN with speech and hyperactivity so I think baby steps is best.

I'm 24 weeks pg and he's off for the summer so its a real 'now or never' sit. I am thinking because of the difficulties a consistent approach is important , so I was thinking like a list maybe to stick on the fridge.

like : Praise for usage of the potty.

: In the case of accidents , do not shout/ chastise as it will cause regression and mean everybody Else's hard works has gone out of the window.

I will think of a less pretentious way to word that lol,

Can anybody think of and good things to put on the list??.

Get some potty themed books. Dd loved reading funny potty books before I started training. We bought a talking potty that praised and sang every time she did a wee or poo which she loved.

Don't buy pull ups for the house; they're a waste of money. Make him wear pants in the house and perhaps take him shopping to choose his own?

Dont stand over him and watch him, you wouldn't like it if someone stood over you whilst you weed or pooed! Leave him to it and tell him to call you once he's done.

Buy him fun croc wipes from boots and a nice hand wash to get him into a good hygienic routine.

I think with SN it's harder to get to the 'they're ready' phase sometimes. I certainly would never get there with DS (6) who potty trained within a week at 2 but post regression can't get the hang of it. It can take them years and years to learn just go cold turkey and accept the accidents and just get him changed. Relax about it and send plenty of spares into school :) DS has about 10 spare trousers and undies in a bag at school just in case. He usually uses about 4 of them a day. But he will sometimes use the toilet so it's hit and miss with him. Keep at it, don't worry.

Im hoping one day he will realise none of his friends wee in their pants and make more of an effort. Right now he wouldn't notice if his friend turned into a giant talking parrot though

I really would wait until he is ready, makes life so much simpler.

DS is 2 weeks in and as he decided himself within a few days he was pretty much dry during the day.

Gently encourage him but don't push it

Can I agree that Pirate Pete's Potty is the business (if you'll excuse the pun). My little boy has been reading for the last couple of weeks and suddenly started asking to sit on the potty. Today he is in big boy pants and has done a wee and wanted me to press the cheer button on PPP :)

Pirate Pete's mum actually gives Pete a list of rules and one is that accidents will happen and mummy and daddy will say "never mind we know you're doing your best" or something like that. I think a reminder that they're not doing it to annoy or cause extra work is useful (my DD took quite a long time to get the hang of potty training and is frustrating).

Good luck!

ds2 managed to use the potty not long after ds1 was potty trained, before he was 2yrs. He would sit on the potty, squeeze out a few drops but would not stop weeing all over the floor and I couldn't get him out of nappies. I tried part time as I did with ds1 - nappy for going out, but he couldn't concentrate enough and would forget he wasn't wearing a nappy.
In the end it was no more nappies at all and a reward chart with the shiniest stickers we could find. It took him 10days, and a lot of accidents!

From 2yr onward we ramped up for potty training - potty, special toilets seats, cool potty books, cool undies, pull ups, reward charts, dinosaur stickers, putting the potty in the morning/evening bedtime routine, ...
We wanted to encourage, but not push.

He went to the loo in the morning/evenings and read the books, but stuck to his nappies.

We watched all his little friends celebrate nappy-freedom and sighed. We tried undies in various holiday periods without success. The kindergarten said just wait, every kid does it in their own time, so we did, despite the urges to do something about it.

At almost 4 (a few weeks ago), DS1 suddenly decided he was ready. And appears he is, only 2 accidents, he doesn't need to be reminded, wipes well, flushes, washes hands. Nature took its course.

And on his 4th birthday he declared he doesn't need a nappy at night either -> so far so good.

(Apparently there is also a genetic component -> if both parents took a while to get there, then their kids will too.)