To think they could just say sorry?

[Softlysoftly]

DH and I just had an argument, he was more in the wrong than I.

Since we have both cooled off he has brought me a "special thoughtful" ice lolly, gone and hung the washing out all wrong and generally creeped around.

AIBU to think it would be easier for him to just say sorry then fuck off and cut the grass like he was supposed to be doing? Why do some people find the S word so difficult?

Not to be sexist [but heck, it comes across that way but it's just different ways of thinking] men do really struggle with the S word. They would rather pussyfoot about than say it, in most of my experiences.

Also, without knowing what the argument was about or how it was dealt with, it's subjective whether he was more in the wrong or you just feel he was as lets face it, nobody likes to admit they were in the wrong.

Just enjoy his groveling, that's what most of us woman do. Or say sorry first and see if he says sorry afterwards - this happens often with my DP.

I wish you good luck :)

Oh dear, don't you know it's a medical problem, Softly? If a man has to say sorry, it causes their throat to swell and would choke then. If they have to say 'Sorry, you were right and I was wrong', the swelling would be that great it would kill them...............

how have you said sorry to him? im a firm believer actions speak louder than words, anyone can say any old shit and not mean it

Never go to bed with an argument still festering.

I have the opposite problem, my DP will say sorry and think that I should forgive whatever has happened, I'd much prefere some useful groveling!

I've said sorry for every argument I'm wrong, I always analyse post fact, I also apologise for actions I did wrong in an argument I wasn't wrong about e.g I'm sorry I shouldn't have shouted, even if the argument was his fault iyswim.

This was def his one, his car died, we have zero money as I'm on mat leave, he was wandering around looking at sportscars and I v unreasonably asked how he would be paying for it? Apparantly I wbu to introduce a bit of pragmatism and what was he supposed to do then, buy a cheap junk car

Likesnowing said, actions speak louder than words.. sorry is very easily said.. he has tried to show you he is sorry..

That was for snowing btw.

We are now friends, he wandered up and said "what? What? You want a cup of tea then?" I said "you're a dick" he said "whatever" so mature.

I'm glad I didn't push the sorry thing "Foslady" I wouldn't want him to choke this time

Hmmm.. sounds like you are hell bent on keeping the argument going really.

His is saying sorry, thats what the lolly and the hanging out the washing was, showing you sorry in deeds not words. My Dh has trouble with the words, but I see his appology in his actions and can usually get him to do something I've been really wanting him to do if I ask when he's "apologizing"

Squeaky no we are done that's 16yrs together shorthand for:

DH "Want tea " = "shouldn't have been an arse"

Me "dick" - I know you mean but cannot physiologically say sorry and I forgive you"

Him "whatever" - thankyou for understanding let's move on"

He is now on the iPad looking at softtop bmws so I'm thinking he's not that sorry......

"he was more in the wrong than I"

So you where both wrong and he does all the grovelling.

Nice.

Boney I promise you on the grovelling scales that are weighted firmly in his favour always

Anyway I derailed my own thread! Why can't some people admit they were wrong verbally?

But if you´ve shouted/argued, you´re also in the wrong & should say sorry.

Tell him that you´d like to say sorry.

Maybe he isn´t?

Actually I want to retract that last statement nobody needs to grovel, I don't want grovelling I want an adult conversation about why we argued and that includes trying to get to a solution and apologising for being wrong.

Diddi I always say sorry for my bit, he seems incapable of it and requests just end in "it's done why discuss it".

he was more in the wrong than I

well obviously you think that.

Maybe he thinks the same

People often do.

I wouldn't know.

Agree with Boney. Sounds like you need to suck it up and grow up. Sorry.