to not want to have to go into work when I'm on annual leave?

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I took three shifts off at the beginning of the month to deal with the flooding in my house (severe). I work part time, so this represented a full week off.

I'm now on annual leave for two weeks, but they phoned me yesterday to ask me to go in towards the end of the month because I'd missed time at the beginning of the month. The time I had to take off was unpaid, so didn't cost them anything, they just got someone else to cover the shifts.

I'm stressed at the moment and value my time off.

AIBU?

You might have been planning to go away for all they know.

If your time off was unpaid it seems they're bang out of order.

tell them to fuck off, they can't do that.

If it was unpaid it's not like you owe them anything, but how would they react if you told them to sod off you can't do it?

Could you say you're off away somewhere, you'd love to be able to help them out of course, but you can't get out of it?

They know I can't go away 'cos of this domestic disaster. The people who do go away are classed as more worthy than the people who remain, who are classed as sitting ducks it seems

Well you can say yes, but I want paying for it and my leave days to still be available, or you can say no, that you are not able to do it.

Your shifts had to be covered when you had time off, so they are hoping that you might be able to be a bit flexible yourself now maybe?

Say NO. Your tine off for a domestic emergency was unpaid. You are now on planned PAID leave and could be lying on a beach in Greece(or some where ) in whichcase would they pay to fly you back for your shift! Tell them to stuff it!

I wouldn't do it

I think it's bang out of order and it's not like you asked for planned to be flooded ffs.

Erm who tells their employer to "fuck off" or "stuff it"? Honestly, perspective, people! What ever happened to decency and sense of duty? If you are needed at work, you are needed at work.

Decency and a sense of duty? Don't you have that for your family when you have booked time off work to be with them?

If you are needed at work...tough bollocks, unless they would go well out of their way for you...which is unlikely.

This really pisses me off. At my last job, the manager used to ask pointedly during a team meeting "what are you going to do on your holiday"? It wasn't even in a nice way. If anyone ever told him they would be staying at home to relax, he used to get pissed off and make snide comments about being paid to stay at home. Once a colleague had his holidays taken away from him, because he told everyone he wasn't going abroad or anywhere else. I am not even joking. Shit shit company.

OP, just tell them you're going abroad and have flights booked.

Hmm, just that vague squirmy feeling that I ought to have agreed. Very uncomfortable.

Tell them sorry but you have booked a late cheap deal to Greece. Cheeky fuckers.

An ex boss of mine once rang my home on my day off. I knew it was her so didnt pick up the phone. So she then came to my flat and knocked on the door to ask if i could come in on my night off.(the first one after doing a full fortnight of nights) I was a bit peeved that shed come round but agreed to go in cos job was fairly well paid for round here at that time. An RL friend of mine was aghast when i told her the boss actually came round though.

I really feel for you though hh, we live near an area that was badly flooded last year and it takes months to sort all the shite the flood brought with it.

Are you having to stay somewhere else?

I would say if you work in the sort of job where people often hope for favours if they need to do shift swaps at short notice, and you could actually do it, without it putting you out too much, then it stands you in good stead if you ever need a favour in return.

Op I've read a few posts about your job thryre treating you like Crap and you can do better. Are you job hunting?

Could you go in for a day to show willing?

I know it's not the point and they're being cheeky basts, but if it gains you some brownie points and lessens the indecision over whether you've done the right thing, it might be worth giving them the shit?

I read that over too, I mean shift of course

Nah, we're still in the house and managing, but we have to move out soon so the work can start.

SIL is coming over from abroad on Monday and we were hoping for some days out. I really don't want to go in.

(feels like I'm skiving now)

As others have said, it depends on things like what the culture is at your work - if you gain from flexibility sometimes, then IMO that means it works both ways, and, if you can help them out, then it makes sense to. OTOH, if they never work with you, or no-one will cover shifts to help you, then you'd be quite within your rights to say that you can't.

We do swap shift for each other sometimes, but I don't know if/when I'll get this time back, so reluctant to let it go. Unless they're expecting me to put the flood days in as annual leave