to feel like I am doing this on my own.

[grantham84]

So I am 30 weeks pregnant. I have just been given a date for my csection. Needed as I have had 2 previous sections. Sadly both my parents have passed away and my siblings are dotted around country so I cannot rely on them for support and those eho live closer can't drive.
DH, is only able to take 3 days off work and may be able to work from home for a couple of days too. Originally when we discussed this I tried to emphasise that I will need help especially with school run, after school clubs etc. DH's response was "my mum will help".
So now section booked dh said "o so we will need to book breakfast and after school clubs for day of section". Err no, I thought your mum was helping. So his mum is now going to be around day of section to get dc to school and take them to hospital to see baby.
I think DH is planning to work from home on the days I am in hospital and I will only have 2 days of him being home with me. (assuming all is well of course)
He just seems to have completely forgotten that I am having an op. Today he expressed surprise that I was going to be unable to drive for a time. He had totally forgotten that you cannot drive after a csection.
Sorry long.

So is there an upcoming holiday that he can rearrange the dates for?

His new holiday year must have started during your pregnancy surely?

I would be a bit concerned that despite his high wages you cant afford for him to take a week off work, yet you are having a 3rd child. That does seem a bit odd.

'He earns so much...'
Sorry that came out wrong. Not earning a fortune but certainly more than £135.00

So why aren't you cutting back now so that you can both afford for him to take a week off? You've got 10(?) weeks left. How much do you have to save each week to make a week off work viable? Do you have any savings? An overdraft you can go into?

How much will he get off at Christmas if he doesn't use the three days then?

You need to sit him down and tell him exactly what the recovery is going to be like, what you are and aren't going to be allowed to do, and then come up with a plan, together.

Holiday year started in January. Didn't find out about pregnancy till March. (slightly unexpected)

thats a bit silly its fairly obvious what you have to do. tighten your belts now make him book at least a week off on paternity leave you already have older children so baby stuff wont be much of an issue,pay for what you can in advance whilst your still a bit flush

Could he not save money beforehand, since he earns so much, so you'd be able to live off the SSP?

Had he used up all his holiday allowance by March??

We do have 1 week we could probably cancel if we had to. However, it would involve cancelling accomodation etc. If Xmas leave cancelled would just get Xmas Day, Boxing Day.
Unfortunately we also have lots of baby stuff to buy as we had got rid of much of the baby stuff.
Guess we need to have a chat about best way forward.

I would cancel whatever holiday you can and, or pay someone to help.
When you are feeling better perhaps he can go in late and come home early? If you are all set up it would not be too bad too manage on your own in the middle of the day as long as your c-section goes well. If you could get a pal to pop in at lunch time to make you some lunch that would be even better and not too onerous on your friends time.

I would make sure I have everything prepared beforehand, freeze up lots of meals and make sure you have bulk bought lots of essentials.

One thing I would definitly do is cancel all after school activities for a while, it won't do the other kids any harm at all and will make life a lot easier.

Are you friends with any of the Mums at your DC's school, could you ask them (or pay them) to take them to school for the first month or so.
Good luck and I hope everything goes wonderfully