to think this is selfish

[grantham84]

Know its petty but twice in the last couple of weeks I have been sat on a bench waiting to meet a friend. I am 30 weeks pregnant and it shows. Two OAP'S have come and sat right next to me on the bench and lit up cigarettes. Each time I got up and moved. Not the end of the world I suppose as other seats available although not so easy for me to see my friend arriving from those seats. Plus why couldn't they use a different bench?

near me not near you, sorry!

You are absolutely not being unreasonable OP and I am a hard core smoker myself - no you don't own the great outdoors but really, it's basic manners and common courtesy. I very rarely smoke in public nowadays but if I do, I only ever spark up if I'm on my own, I just wouldn't smoke if anyone else is nearby as I genuinely do feel that smoking is something I choose to do and yes, it is antisocial and so many people hate it that I just don't bother. Yes, you get worse fumes walking down the street blah blah blah but that's something you can't do anything about - someone lighting up in front of you, pregnant or not, is something you can at least try to do something about by asking them not to!

Pombear where there are other benches THEY could have gone to why should she have to move from where she already is?

Its rude.
Doesnt matter if they are old, if the OP is pregnant or whatever.
Its rude to sit next to someone and light a fag.

YANBU.

I'm a casual smoker and never smoke in front of my kids, or light up next to someone who isn't already smoking. I wouldn't stand or sit next to a pregnant woman and smoke and I didn't smoke at all when I was pregnant, BFing and TTC.

There is an unspoken etiquette about smoking and most decent smokers will abide by it.

It's about consideration and knowing that it is your choice to smoke and therefore not to inflict it on others who choose not to.

YANBU OP, they were rude.

YANBU

I would also suffer badly if someone lit up next to me as I suffer from chronic cough. The slightest bit of smoke and I end up choking and gasping for breath.

YANBU. I don't even thing the fact you are pregnant is particularly relevant actually (although of course it is to you!), it is rude to sit and light up next to anyone who isn't smoking themselves. I've stopped shushing DD now if she comments on how horrible it is to have to breath in someone else's smoke - if they are thick skinned enough to smoke next to a non smoker they can listen to a kids' opinion of their behaviour.