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...to wonder why a small baby was at a film premiere??

126 replies

Igetknockeddownbutgetupagain · 21/07/2012 19:00

The shooting at the Batman premiere in Denver is terrible news and I have just been watching a report about it on the news (hark at me getting up on the day's events).

On screen appears a young guy, early to mid twenties, standing next to his partner, talking about how he'd been holding his baby in the cinema screen...

Why? I am dumbfounded. How did they get in, with a baby? I just can't wrap my brain around it!

OP posts:
StealthPolarBear · 22/07/2012 10:26

Oh no...the man put his baby down and ran :( that is awful. I'd question his suitability as a parent Tbh.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 22/07/2012 10:26

YANBU to wonder, YANBU to post - freedom of speech an all that. But I still think your priorities are up the wazoo

liketochat1 · 22/07/2012 10:26

I thought it was odd that young children were there. It was late at night and the film is violent and scary. They shouldn't have been taken to the show.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 22/07/2012 10:26

Stealth - sorry - I don't think any of us have any idea what we'd do.

StealthPolarBear · 22/07/2012 10:27

And he did not deserve to be shot and his family's injuries were the fault od the gunman and no one else. But surely as a parent you need to be confident you'll do absolutely anything you can to ensure your chidren's safety

StealthPolarBear · 22/07/2012 10:28

I hope I never have to find out but I am confident I would be running and dragging the dc with me

StealthPolarBear · 22/07/2012 10:28

But if this hadn't been anything to do with shootings would the op bu to start abthread wondering why small children are at a violent film at midnight?

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 22/07/2012 10:29

I wouldn't want to comment on someone's trauma on an internet forum. I'm off.

StealthPolarBear · 22/07/2012 10:32

Ok, point taken. It just horrified me a bit. Obviously the mum and the unrelated teen acted very differently. Anyway, taking the shootings out of the equation, this is about dc at age inappropriate films.
Don't know where I stand on that. I stopped watching Jeremy Kyle when ds was a few days old as he cried when they shouted :( but dh and I watched a box set of sex and the city until the dc were over 6m.

liketochat1 · 22/07/2012 11:17

He put his baby down and ran off?! I didn't know that. Oh my goodness!

BeeWi · 22/07/2012 11:20

We took our 4month old baby to see Batman yesterday (11am showing) as our cinema has a soundproof booth that you can book if you want to take your baby and, to be honest, I was wondering why anyone would take a six year old to see that film. Bane is a pretty scary baddie; I would have had nightmares at that age if I'd seen such a film. Plus, it is a violent film. I felt reasonable in taking my own baby as I know her field of vision isn't developed enough to take in what's on the screen and I took a pillow and she was laid facing me, feeding or sleeping for most of the film. I wold not, however, have been happy to take a child who was older and able to understand what was going on but was oung enough to be affected by such a violent and at times scary film.

Obviously this comment is unrelated to the murders that happened in Denver- that was horrific and should never have happened. I did think, like the OP, that it was surprising that such young kids were at a late night showing of a violent film.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 22/07/2012 11:27

OP, I understand your point. I have a 3m old who is BF, and this is why I've decided I cant see the film yet. It did seem weird to me when I heard the report, as I'd already thought about taking DS2 and decided against it.

That doesn't mean I think anyone deserved shooting and am a bit shocked by the responses to the thread!

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 22/07/2012 11:28

I have no problem with him watching the film btw, fwiw he watched Batman Begins with us last night Grin

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 22/07/2012 11:32

As for the man, I hate to speculate but in defence of the random man I don't know I'm going to put forward the suggestion that maybe he thought that noone would shoot the baby, so he would be safer on the floor than running away?

Mrsjay · 22/07/2012 11:33

yip that is what you should be worrying about how did the baby get in Confused FWIW they were maybe attachment parents or she was breastfeeding or the had no baby sitter and wanted to see the film , those poor people and their families Sad

pumpkinsweetie · 22/07/2012 11:35

Small babies are portable, the baby would have been a pram fast asleep i presume.
The real point to focus speculation and hate on is the shooter who went and killed and injured many innocent people!
They took their child with them what on earth is wrong with that

BeeWi · 22/07/2012 11:39

Intelligent people can hold more than two different thoughts in their head at a time. You can be horrified by what happened as well as being surprised by young children being out so late at night, watching a film premier. One thought does not negate the other.

Mrsjay · 22/07/2012 11:43

"Intelligent people can hold more than two different thoughts in their head at a time. You can be horrified by what happened as well as being surprised by young children being out so late at night, watching a film premier. One thought does not negate the other."

Intelligent people can also work out a reason why a small baby was in the cinema it isnt rocket science,

cocolepew · 22/07/2012 11:45

I can see why people take a small baby, it will sleep and isn't watching the film. Todders or older would be able to watch the film, and I don't think its appropriate for them. But obviously all parents have different ideas of what's acceptable.

lollypophead · 22/07/2012 12:00

Yes the thread is about whether or not a baby should be taken to a late and noisy cinema showing. If you consider that as a stand alone question it may help you to have a view on it. Personally I wouldn't. There are brilliant mother and baby cinema showings where the sound is turned down, it's during the day and you can go watch a film you want to see. There are lots of other mothers there with their babies so everyone understands if one cries.

cocolepew · 22/07/2012 12:04

I never knew about the mother and baby showings. They had nothing like that when my 2 were tiny!

thisisyesterday · 22/07/2012 12:10

how old was the baby?

i took ds2 and ds3 to the cinema as very small babies. they were in the moby sling and i took them because they were breastfed on demand.
they weren't bothered by the noise, they stayed quiet and mostly asleep.

thisisyesterday · 22/07/2012 12:12

oh and if either of mine had started crying and boob hadn't stopped them then i'd have taken them out.

no reason why you can't take a little baby out to the cinema IMO, as long as you are prepared to leave if you're disturbing others

ChocHobNob · 22/07/2012 12:13

I must admit, I did have a fleeting thought of "what was a 6 year old doing at a premiere of a 12a rated film at midnight?" Purely because is very late and the parents wouldn't have been able to vet the film first to make sure it was suitable for the child. (which incidentally, having seen it myself yesterday, I wouldn't take my 7 yr old. It is too violent IMO)

But then the parents did nothing illegal and are probably beating themselves up for doing it because if they hadn't, she would still be with them now. It will not help anyone to remind them of the fact.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 22/07/2012 12:15

It's not a stand-alone question. It's in really poor taste to start a thread on it the context of a mass murder.

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