To worry about DD being left alone in the world?

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DH and I are lucky enough to have tickets to the closing ceremony of the Olympics. We have four tickets and are taking MIL and SIL with us and leaving 9 month old DD with (unofficial) Godparents.

I know how crazy this sounds, but I am feeling a bit uneasy about this situation as I think the event is a prime target for a terrorist attack. In normal circumstances that wouldn't stop me from doing anything, but in this instance I am worried because my DD's whole family (with the exception of elderly GF) will be at the event. All of my family live in Australia, so if the worst were to happen there would literally be NO ONE to come home to her, until my Mum got here. The thought of it makes me feel physically sick and not want to go.

Am I being ridiculous? WWYD?

Completely understandable fear I think for every parent but u know you'll be fine! I always think ok if worst happened what would happen dc and u know unofficial god p would mind them and ur mother would! Enjoy olympics-I still worry like that occasionally over my 12 yr old!

I worry about this sort of situation and my baby isn't even born!

I have spoken about the issue with my mum, me and my DP have very large families but non with small children, mostly teanage kids/uni student kids. There is no one obvious that our child would go to if both me and my DP died.

I feel like if the baby was under the age of 2 the best option for the baby would be for them to be adopted with (if possible) the option of visits from the extended biological family. I have adopted siblings and I think it would be better for the baby to go to a couple who want a baby/child rather than going to a blood relative who's life isn't really set up for a small child. I feel like if the baby was kept in the biological family under the age of 2 it would be for the benifit of the biological family rather than the benifit of the child.

I think all this changes when the child develops a bond with their wider family, if they were a little older I feel it would be best for them to go to a family member so they can keep those connections.

So for me if I was going to the olympics with a 9 month old at home I wouldn't consider the best option for the baby to live with our biological families anyway (they are amazing lovely people, just not at the baby stage in their life)

That is just my opinion, just sharing what we would do :)

Enjoy the games!

Sorry. Not read past FairyFriends response to me.

I was just trying to show that my parents thoughts were no different to her own. And that was towards a grown up daughter. So really all quite normal.

There is a risk, yes. You are not being unreasonable to have a fear of something that could happen and leave your child alone, but honestly the chances are SMALL.

You could also get hit by a truck as you cross the street, this chance is also SMALL. The reason this doesn't keep you awake at night is that it is a random thing, something that doesn't affect a lot of people.

Please go, if you don't the terrorists win by default - they don't even need to lift a finger to ruin this and control everyone's lives. When DD learns the Olympics were in your city and did you go, will you tell her you were too scared?

(And personally, I think the closing ceremony is a low risk event, the impact of an attack there is less - the games are done.)

nevermind there was nothing at all wrong with your first post. Some are reassuring her that it's unlikely anything will happen, others are reassuring her that it's normal to worry that it might.

You were doing the latter, and that was plainly obvious to me.

Sorry, "her" meaning OP of course.

OP I understand where you are coming from. I always dislike going out in the car with my DH alone and have never flown on the same plane with him (without the children) since the children were born. I also worry about my children travelling together in case something happens to them. We have a strong biological instinct to protect our offspring.

I think however that the chances of an attack are small and of all of you dying or being injured even smaller. If you let fear rule your life then the terrorists have effectively won. It is a once in a lifetime opportunity, make the most of it.

By the way I travel through central London everyday as does my DH and my elder DD, I do worry about terrorists sometimes but you can't spend the rest of your life worrying about things that will never happen.

I get you OP - me and DH went away to the states and left DS 1&2 with my parents, had a fab fab time but that flight home was the longest in the world!!

so it's normal to be worried but I guess not normal to cancel something potentially amazing from a worry.

Wow Broody, you have really thought this through!

I am going to go to the ceremony, I don't think there was ever any real doubt that I would. Between now and then I am just not going to think about it. No point going if I am going to sit there all anxious about it.

Thanks everyone for your posts.