I'm posting here and not in relationships as DH is lovely most of the time, and we get on fine. I've just got an issue with what happens whenever he goes out at the moment. I posted in here a few weeks ago, as he'd been out a lot while the football was on, and then one night he stayed out all night without letting me know that he wouldn't be home, and I was furious.
Last night, he went out, and did come back before 2am, as he'd promised he would. However, he was so drunk, he couldn't stand up. He fell asleep on the sofa, then about an hour later, he crawled into our bedroom, full-dressed, and I could see that he'd wet himself. I told him I didn't want him in bed with me (and 5 year old DD had got in with me too, and was fast asleep). He then went back downstairs. A bit later, I needed the loo, and he'd pissed all over the bathroom. I cleaned it all up, and went back to bed- in the meantime, he'd got into DD's vacant bed. This morning, I went in to DD's room to open a window (as it smelt like a brewery, and he was lying there in a puddle of his own wee. I woke him up, threw some clean bedding and a bowl of disinfectant at him, and told him to change the sheets and scrub the mattress. Of course, he was still drunk, and simply slunk off into our bedroom. So I've had to change the sheets, scrub the mattress (luckily was almost dry, at least), and make the bed. To make it worse, it's my DD2's 9th birthday (she's mine from previous marriage), and she'll be home from her dad's in half an hour, and will want DH to watch her opening her presents. She's got a bowling party at midday, and he's going to be about as much use as a chocolate teapot. He'd promised me that he wouldn't get so drunk as to be hungover and ruin the day. I wouldn't mind him going out if he didn't get so drunk- he's 36, not 18 and I end up feeling like I'm his mum. AIBU to think that he needs to calm it down a bit? I'm 31 weeks pregnant so could do without the stress! I feel anxious when he's out, as I know he'll be in a state!