To think she could have called me

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Ds has been mates with a particular lad all through school.
He has been over our house alot after school in the holidays where I have helped his mom out when she has been working.
We had a issue this week where a boy that walks to school with ds and his best mate was bullying my ds on the way to school and also in school making others pick on him as well.
My ds had told me that his best mate had laughed along with it.
It ended in ds not wanting to go to school one of the days this week and then my ds's mate and the bully being called into the office.
Luckily the school have sorted it out and apparently ds's mate was feeling awful about it.
I know he would have told his mom as he tells her everything and I thought that she would have called to make sure everthing is okay but nothing been as though they have been best buddies for about 6 years.

Could the lad have played it down to his mum so she doesn't know the full extent of what he was doing?

But then wouldn't the school have said something if he was called into the office?

What does your DS think about it now? It doesn't excuse his mates behaviour, but it's good he feels bad about it, much worse when they're just not bothered and can't see what all the fuss is about, IMO.

How old are they? If she thinks it's been dealt with then I wouldn't necessarily expect her to call, she is probably embarrassed and it sounds like her son has realised what he has done wrong.

Must feel hurtful. I think you could mention it to the otherv Mother and see what kind of tale she was told. Then you'll know the actual facts of the situation and might be of help for possible further incidents. Maybe the other Mother has been meaning to call you and has been tied up. I hope it all works out how you want it to. Keep posting, we're here.

You dont know that he told her. I think YABU because you are making assumptions.

And if she does know, maybe she doesn't want to phone in case you slam the phone down, or maybe she doesn't know how to broach the subject or maybe she doesn't realise the extent of the problem.

That sounded harsh, sorry. I know it must feel awful to be where you are, but I'm sure she feels pretty crap about it too, of she knows.

Maybe she is just waiting till she gets to speak to you in person. Or maybe she wants to think it over and work out what to say.

You're assuming the Mum knows. You can't know for sure that she does.