To be pissed off at OH?

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OH just came in and said BIL and GF are staying over tonight. It is easier for them as they won't need a lift home from where ever they are going apparently.

Ordinarily I wouldn't give hoots and would have them over any time, however we are in the process of finding out if we have had a 3rd miscarriage, I feel like shit as it is.

They are also bringing their two dogs which coupled with our dog makes three bloody dogs in the house tonight.

He didn't even consult me and wonders why I am pissed off at him.

AIBU? (Sorry if post doesn't make sense, fuming right now)

YANBU Can you put them off?

but..is your BIL GF good to talk to? Are you friends? I doubt you'd be so pissd off if you were.

I totally get you want your peace/ house to yourself. I wish you well and sorry this has happened to you. All the best, for what is a very difficult time.

I don't want to now as they will know it is down to me and I feel awkward as it is.

Erm I wouldn't talk to them about what is going on no, we get on but not that much.

And thanks, much appreciated, might just have an early night.

I'm sorry you're having to wait for such a potentially awful thing, I really hope you get good news.

YANBU to think your DP would have the sensitivity to wonder whether you'd want company tonight, it's not something you should have to put a brave face on and keep to yourself in your own home.

You need support and care, not to have people you don't (seem to) want in the house.

Is it too late to tell him to fuck off you don't want anyone round tonight? If he's got anything about him he shouldn't be going off on one because you've said.

Have an early night and talk to your OH tomorrow morning when they have gone.

YADNBU and your OH needs to think about you more!

I understand the just wanting to be alone with your thoughts. Since your dp didn't bother asking you, I wouldn't worry at all about taking to bed with a headache (and mumsnet).
Hope it turns out to be good news.

YANBU - I would be narked in your position. I would think it's a case of DH not thinking about how you're feeling. I doubt he's being purposely thoughtless, just not thinking if you know what I mean

Go to bed with a 'headache' or try and be sociable, whatever you think will do you the most good.

Fingers crossed for you.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you, I hope everything is ok with the baby.

Waiting is awful.

I am so sorry you are having to go through such a horrible situation whwere you can't just relax at home on your own til you find out.

Hope you had an early night and that you have a bright and happy baby 6-8 months in the future :)

OK, they may be annoying but.. would them being there make it less of a miscarriage? Probably not, so just go with it of you possibly can!!

I know 3 days after mis, I was out building snowmen and women with my DSD.

I just kind of got on with it!! That was the best way for me!!

I've had two MCs and kind of got on with it too mamma, but it's a bit harsh to tell someone who's obviously distressed and worried that they shouldn't be taking it so seriously.

Mamma I'm sure you didn't mean that to sound as crass as it did but all the same I think it shows a complete lack of empathy.

Nothing can make something 'less of a miscarriage' but that doesn't mean it isn't a time in the OP's life where she'd like some privacy in her own home.

OP, YANBU at all and I really hope everything's ok for you.

I think putting on a brave face for a child and being expected to entertain an adult couple are entirely different things.

I agree with that igggi.

Hope the OP's OK.

YANBU wonder why he did that. Talk about it in the morning.

I was thinking that too Neil.

Just going on how I/DH felt, but after one/two MCs, you set up mechanisms to protect yourself from the pain, I wondered whether he'd distanced himself from it and it didn't cross his mind (or he didn't want it to cross his mind) that the OP might not feel the same way.