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Quick poll - should I feel guilty, and what should I do?

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 20/07/2012 10:33

Our LL had some work done our our flat yesterday. The way the block of flats is build, there is a wide paved walkway, open to the air but boxed in on all sides, in front of the first-floor flats. This is partly their space for putting pots of plants out, but partly also access to our staircase to the third floor. Our downstairs neighbours are long-term tenants and have lots of lovely pot plants, so they make their space very homey. We didn't know until they got here, but the builders had to access the outside of our flat by putting ladders up from the walkway. They knocked loads (I mean loads) of plaster and glass our onto the walkway, and they did clear up (I thought perfectly adequately) but it must have been a pain.

I got a card and wrote an apology to the neighbour directly below us, explaining we hadn't known the work would happen like this and hoping she hadn't been too much disturbed. I've now just seen the other neighbour (both are elderly woman) sweeping up meticulously and getting plaster dust out of the gutter that runs along the walkway. She'd gone in before I got my shoes on to go down but it looks as if she'd been brushing the whole walkway clean.

Do you think I should feel guilty, or do you reckon a bit of mess happens when someone else has access over your path? And should I go knock on her door to say sorry/ buy some flowers/ what?

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Sirzy · 20/07/2012 10:38

You apologised, the workmen had cleared up I would leave it personally.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 20/07/2012 10:43

I didn't apologize to her - I put a card through the neighbour's door, this is the neighbour one along. She wouldn't usually sweep up there.

I am being daft, aren't I!

I just hate building work, I guess.

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Scholes34 · 20/07/2012 10:44

I think some flowers wouldn't go amiss for good neighbourly relations. Yes, the builders did the mess, yes, they attempted to clean it up, but I think you should acknowledge the inconvenience to them in cleaning it up properly, even though it wasn't your fault. It would be a nice gesture.

Mrsjay · 20/07/2012 10:46

Buidling work of any kind is stressful IMo the old ladies probably just like the clearing up done 'right' you did tell them leave them to brush up smile at them and say thank goodness the work is finished, My neighbour would do the same and be out with her broom and sweeping,

LRDtheFeministDragon · 20/07/2012 10:51

Ok, sounds as if at least no-one on here is outraged that I violated some kind of code of ethics, which is what I was worried about! I'll buy some flowers when I'm in the shop for the lady who swept up.

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