Sodding photos

[Hawkmoon269]

My mil means well but persists in taking horrible photos of me and then putting them up everywhere (in her home), emailing them to every relative under the sun and generally making them as public as possible.

I'm not a fan of having my photo taken, but if there's a nice one I'm fine with it being emailed round etc. lots of her family are overseas so I know it's important for her to send lots of photos out. But most of them are DREADFUL. I know I'm a wimp but a couple have actually made me cry, such unflattering pictures. I look really horrible and it's from these pictures that these random relatives form their impression of me. Eurgh. Am I being really precious??

Last time my mil got her camera out I actually put my hand up "no paps" style - it was a reflex action!

Have you told her how you feel? If you think she'd do it anyway...why don't you return her favour and begin to take pis of her whilst she's looking at hr worst too?

You can snap her as she comes out of the loo....as she's picking her nose...then send them all over the place...relatives...FB....

I feel your pain, but, truly, hardly anyone likes photos of themselves. I hate pictures of myself.

I honestly don't think you can start vetoing what she sends out, but just be reassured that other people won't think the photos look anything like as horrible as you do. They probably think you look lovely.

Also, are the reasons things that you can change? i.e hairstyle, weight etc? I'm very overweight at the moment which is partly why I hate pics of myself, but I'm also aware that I can do something to change that.

I read somewhere that part of the reason that we don't like photos, is that we are used to seeing mirror reflections of ourselves. Photos show us as we actually are (i.e not a mirror image), and our brains can't adjust to the difference in perception. I have no idea whether this is correct btw, but it did make a certain sense!

Have it out with her.

If its bothering you, its a problem and she's not respecting that.

Unless you are posing chav styleee giving the finger to the camera with a pout that looks more like constipation, then why do you worry what these people will think. Would you judge someone based on a photo that is not particularly photogenic?