AIBU to have told me grandmother to stop saying "she's watching over you"

[5dcsinneedofacleaner]

I admit to being in a bad mood today- i have mastitis and im feeling pretty sorry for myself which is why i am aware that i may be over reacting a tad.

My grandmother has the habit of saying "your mother is watching over you" or the like at least twice in every phone call, this is my fathers mother not her mother.she died when i was a teenager and my dad is now in fact on his third wife since she died (whole other rant).

It makes me really annoyed when she says it because frankly over the past 13 years if she may have been watching over me but its done shite all to help me.
Today after 13 years i snapped at my grandmother to stop saying it and now i am full of guilt and yet hoping she will actually get the message.

Was i unreasonable since i think i hurt her feelings? Should i apologize and go back to ignoring it ?

Ive just seen all the mistakes in the title and post - lets blame my temperature.

YANBU as it sounds annoying and slightly insensitive, even though I'm sure her intentions are well meant

However I think perhaps you could apologise for the way you said it - and gently explain why it bothers you at the same time.

You weren't unreasonable to ask her to stop saying it, but it was unreasonable to snap at her. She's been saying it for years with no complaints from you. She probably thinks you find it comforting and she's trying to be nice.

Apologise. But then ask nicely for her to stop saying it.

Yes. I agree ivanapoo.
Apologise for snapping but tell her that while she means it kindly you would rather she didn't say it.

When my dad died my mum and sister became ridiculous in a kind of maudlin 'he is watching over us, helping us' thing.
I endured it for years as he was cited as the reason lost items were foubd or difficult issues resolved.
Finally my mum decided that he was visiting me as a robin (WTF!). That conversation didn't go well
'there's a bloody robin in my house!'
'aw that's your dad, visiting you'
'could you make him stop shitting on my sofa'

Fortunately she is a good sort and we talked it through and she doesn't do it around me anymore.

Tell her but apologise.

Poor you, having mastitis. Hope you feel better soon, its the shittest thing to have, therefore you were well within your rights to say what you did, she's lucky that's all you said

Aww bless you, you sound ever so fed up. Have a

I will give her a ring tomorrow and apologize for snapping - i know she is trying to make me feel better even if it doesnt .
pagwatch the robin thing is exactly the sort of thing she would say!.