To be annoyed about this work situation?

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I am working as part of a job share with someone more senior than me. I work half the week in their classroom, then cover other classes for the other half.
We get on really well together, but because my job share partner is more senior than me, she makes lots of decisions without asking me, asks me to do things for her and generally gets a better deal than me.
Part of me feels as if I'm being petty and should just get over it, but part of me is annoyed at it being unfair and feels like saying something. Don't want to cause an argument though as we generally have lots of fun.

What kind of decisions and how dies she make them via another staff member(s)?

Like where furniture in our room is going to go, the timetable, how our helpers will be used. I either find out through other people, or when I ask about something she says oh I'm going to do this!

I have never heard of a job share with the sharers on different grades, that must be a hard one to manage.

How was the job share structured? As in was it part of the deal that you would do stuff for her because she is more senior?

If not then you need to have a sit down, which you should be doing on a regular basis and mention the things that are causing you concern - as you want a positive working relationship I would only mention the two or three most important things and frame it as a point of discussion as in " I would like some input into xyz I know it can be tricky with us not being in at the same time so how do we make that happen"

Deep breath. Holidays are here. See how you feel again in the autumn :)

I job shared with a more senior person, she did three days and I did two. Seeing she was the more senior I had to just get one with whatever she decided. Didn't bother me a bit, she made the schedule and left me a list and any other instructions on our/her desk and I worked form that. I used to leave her a note if I thought anything needed doing on her days that she might not notice (as in not read the patient notes from whoever I had seen)

I job share & IMO good communication is absolutely vital. I would worry about her making decisions in your absence unless they have a negative impact on you or your role but would question why u are not consulted or at the very least informed. Last job before finishing my 3 days is email job share partner an update & she does the same for me. As far as the 'outside world' is concerned a job share should be a seemless handover from one person to the other as if you were 1 person but you need to know exactly what the other is doing to be effective IMO or you will always be seen as the assistant or worse the one who picks up the shit jobs the other doesn't want!

I Wouldn't worry not worry!!

Yes that's what I'm worried about lechatnoir, other members of staff tell me to stand up to her and complain about her, but often I'm not bothered. It's just the last few things that have seemed really unfair to me. It's possible that because it's the end of term she's been more stressed than usual, I know I've been grumpier than usual recently so will wait and see what happens in September.
Communiciation in general isn't a problem because we're both in school all week, just only in the shared class half the week each. It's just a few decisions she seems to have felt entitled to make without thinking about me at all.
Any tips for not getting drawn into gossip about other members of staff would be really useful! It's hard being stuck in the middle.

I wouldn't just leave it and hope that the holidays make it better.

Arrange to have a chat with her the week before you go back and raise the concerns that you have in a constructive way - maybe around putting in place what lechatnoir has suggested so a formal handover between you.

Remember the job share is not only good for you but also for her and she will want it to work as much as you do.

Regarding the gossip, just refuse to get involved "bean dip" i.e. change the topic as quickly as you can to something more pleasant.