Would this bother you? Thank yous for gifts - cards for expensive presents and texts for cheaper ones

[groundcontroltomajortom]

A family member has done this a couple of times now.

One was for a wedding present and the other a christening one.

Basically - she's sent me a text thanking me both times for our gift (I think the wedding gift was worth about £20 and the christening one about £10). Which ok, fair enough, it's nice to have a card but any kind of thank you is nice.

But I've found out that she's sat down and written cards to those people who spent more on the gifts - so both times my Mum and Dad have been given cards for their more expensive gifts. My brother was given a card for their wedding gift (expensive) but a text for the teddy they gave as a christening gift.

Is this perfectly alright? I just feel a bit... I don't know...poor relation I guess. But I'm happy to be told AIBU, really, it's not a major issue!

Thanks kinky, I don't think she'd be pissed I didn't come to her wedding or christening. I live abroad and was heavily pregnant when she got married. Do you think that would explain why she'd do that though?

If you live abroad, a text was probably cheaper and more likely to reach you.

I would say you may be overthinking it.

I would just be happy with a thankyou. A card is just more clutter.

You live abroad?? Oh that would be why - I think at least! Much faster to text than post something out!

Oh you live abroad. That's understandable then :)

Great, thank you

Tight shite.

She was quite happy to take your gift. Just because your spend was different to others should not mean you are not worthy of a stamp. (Or is she doing a gift spend/text spend/stamp spend ratio calculation?)

I don't think the cost of the gift should bear any relation to the method of thanking. A cheap gift may be "expensive" in proportion to how much money the giver has.

I wouldn't make this distinction myself and think it is a bit rude BUT at the end of the day I am more than happy to be thanked by text or otherwise for a gift.