Year 6 leavers assembly should be for all parents?

[needsomesunshine]

My eldest ds is leaving yr6. One of his friends mum rang to ask if I was going to assembly this morning. Rang the school to double check & is only for parents that have been invited in. Ive never heard of this before. Surely the leavers assembly should be for everyone?
If they haven't got enough space they should
do it in the evening. I suppose I'm more disappointed that it means my ds isn't getting anything but I think it's unreasonable that the school have sent secret letters out to some parents. They know mothers talk to each other!

Unbelievable! I have never heard of a school doing this before - how appalling. They should be celebrating the achievements of all their leavers, not a selected few. I am chair of governors at a primary school and if the GB knew the HT was doing this, fur would fly, so I suggest you write to your HT and express your concerns and copy the letter to the CoG.

Id just turn up.

YAsooNBU.

The school needs a big telling-off.

Ring back and double check..... And ask why you have been excluded!

Not good poor you and the left out kids! I'd just go and snarl at the ht if they try to turn you away.

Any chance the invite made it home, or did they actually say you weren't allowed to come? If the latter then it is horrible, but I've seen too much of the former!

so your child isnt as important as a child with an invited parent Id be livid phone school and check though as maybe the invite hasnt got to you, I dont understand why a school would leave parents out

I bet your DS just didn't give you the letter.

DD (9) does this all the bloody time.

Who was invited? Were they the parents whose DC were to receive awards?

At DD1's (secondary) school, you only get an invitation to the awards afternoon if your DD is going to get an award, due to lack of room.

Or was it those parents who have helped on the PTA, or as volunteers who were invited?

All parents were invited to the leavers assembly at my DDs' junior school, though, but this was different to the awards assembly, which none of us got to attend.

And I thought my child's school was bad (another thread!).

It's such a shame when your child has spent many years at primary and then to get such a big snub at the end.

Agree you should put a complaint in writing.

This can't be right, ring the school, never heard of this at all, leavers are leavers even if some get prizes, this has to be bollocks!!

I've rung the school back. They said its not a leavers assembly, they're not doing one
It's an awards assembly for the whole school. My other ds has got an award for attendance but they don't invite parents in for that I have been so supportive of the school all year but their lack of communication on this one astounds me.

They're not doing anything special for the leavers? that's sad.

When I read your title I thought you were going to say you had a child in year 3 or something and wanted to be able to see the leavers assembly, so I was ready to say YABU. But YANBU at all.

I suppose it's not a leavers assembly if there are going to be children from all the year groups in it, in which case its undersatndable that they cant include everyone, but it's crap that they aren't doing anything just for the leavers.

The thing to really do is get a group of kids to complain. DCs primary used to give awards to everyone in year 6. Then the cups started to not be returned, so they reduced the number of awards. Then it turned out that someone might get both the sports cup and another prize. In the end after years of parental muttering, a group of year 5 and 6 went to the Head to complain.
So they have restructured it for this year, with no one getting more than one prize and everyone getting a certificate celebrating their contribution.

DCs senior school tries hard to mention by name anyone who has achieved anything, but isn't actually getting an actual award; eg. the very "naughty" boy in DDs class who did do well in the singing competition was mentioned in the speeches.