school teacher having a dig at me

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teacher at school never met me doesnt know anything about me but remarks and has a opinion about me calling me unsupportive unsympathtic and a waste of space.... am i being unreasonable wanting to report him to headmaster

"Waste of space" is appalling . Unsupportive could be factual, especially if, say, the teacher has been teaching your DCs for a year and you've never met them (not necessarily, just that this is a description that could reasonably be applied to someone without meeting them). Unsympathetic would depend very much on context.

Depending on the circumstances I would think the "waste of space" comment was reasonable to report. But I'd be more concerned about a situation where a teacher had thought it appropriate to be so negative about me in a report without there being a face-to-face meeting.

The wording the teacher used is the sort of thing I'd expect to see from someone who was very frustrated by a service they were supposed to receive. "Waste of space" is unprofessional, but put in the context of, say, the school paying for external support, it is a clear way of indicating that those services aren't worth the school's time or money (in the teacher's opinion). In this sort of circumstance I wouldn't bother complaining to the head about the wording, I'd be thinking about how to refute the claim.

Need more info op. I'm not sure I believe that you read a report with waste of space on it.

If this is primary school and you have never met your child's teacher and they don't know who you are at all then perhaps you are unsupportive.

I wouln't be so keen to report. Sounds like highlighting an issue about yourself when the more important issue is your child and how to support him or her.

But that's based on masses of assumptions about what this is all about.

What's the problem OP?
You have the evidence, so go and complain about the teacher's unprofessional attitude.
I have sometimes thought that a parent was a waste of space, was unsuitable to take care of a hamster let alone a child and that the best thing for the child was if that parent was abducted by aliens. I have never written those thoughts down in a report.
The teacher needs to learn the difference, and what is appropriate.

A teacher wrote the words "waste of space" in a report? The actual words Waste and Of and Space?

What was the report about?

Who and what was the report intended for?

How did you get this report?

Hi all, I am a primary school teacher and believe me under no circumstances would we EVER, in ANY case, write that a parent in a waste of space (even when we think it!!). Generally speaking we don't write about the parents at all, even in end of year reports, apart from perhaps suggesting the child would benefit from more support at home.

The only time teachers might disclose more about parents is if we are asked to fill out an overview form for child protection, usually relating to a court case or CP review, when we are asked to comment on how they are presented (clean/correct uniform etc), and any comments the child themselves makes about their home life. But even then, I doubt that any reasonable teacher would ever use the term "waste of space" - it's distinctly unprofessional and wouldn't exactly work in our favour to use such language.

Maybe suggest a meeting with this teacher to discuss your feelings and explain why you are so upset? Most teachers would rather have the parents be open and honest with them than have them upset or angry. It might just be a misunderstanding.

Just because you are a primary school teacher Phoenix doesn't mean you can undoubtedly speak for all. I have met & work with some very dodgy teachers who don't always act as professionally as they should.

I assume you are no longer with the child's mother (big assumption that you're male apologies if not!) and she has sole/main custody of the child? If this is the case & you've never met the teacher then I would be speaking to them about basing a report on hearsay & without evidence BUT before you go in all guns blazing I'd be seriously questioning if there's any truth in the statements & if necessary use this as a wake-up call to becoming a proper parent.

Report to Social Services? In that occasion a school will be asked to comment on parenting capacity....

I would be interested to know how the OP got this report.
If a teacher has wrote this then I would hope they have very good grounds for saying so. Though the language could have been more professional. Have you actually seen this report?
I am not sure why you need 'feedback' if you feel this is wrong and unjustified. Before you go in be prepared to explain where you got the report from, if you have actually seen it. Also really look at yourself. Is it true? Is it a wake up call you possibly need.
You came for feedback, but you are unlikely to a simple yes/no answer, with so little explanation. I am not sure why feedback was so urgent in the middle of the night.
I like others suspect there is more to this.

I think 4LovelyChildren might be right. However, a teacher would not write 'waste of space'. Perhaps it was a Social Worker's notes from a conversation with the teacher. Teacher would be unprofessional if this were the case.

However, teacher could just deny that they said this.

I suspect the OP might have read something that wasn't intended for anyone else's eyes.

I also suspect that the teacher was being candid and honest without having to put on the 'professional' head you need when talking to parents and sometimes end up talking all around the houses and using 40 words when 1 would do because the 1 might be offensive.

I don't believe a teacher would write "waste of space" in a report because even if one teacher was unprofessional enough to use that sort of language about a parent (although I've never heard anything like that), they would have to be a complete idiot to commit it to paper and if they did, would be hauled over hot coals for it. No headteacher would tolerate this. I can't imagine a colleague would turn a blind eye either.

Unsympathetic and unsupportive - yes, I can imagine those being written to describe a parents conduct/attitude/engagement with the school.

Waste of space - never in a month of sundays. That sounds more like the OP is angry and trying to gain more support by inferring that is what the teacher was inferring.

More than that, the only time I have ever been required to commit any of my opinions about a parent to paper was for the purposes of CAFs or CP conferences. Schools don't keep files on parents!

You could report to the Head, but I suspect the Head has already read the report. If indeed it exists