to really hate my job and most of the people I work with

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Not sure if Im having a very bad day but just want to tell them all to f* right off today. Im just so fed up and Im either going to cry or eat lots of chocolate. If I look for a lower paid job Im going to be worse off but do you know what Im seriously considering it... ; 0 (

I know that feeling. My maternity leave ends in two months and I'm already starting to feel physically sick.

You have my sympathy. I work for two brothers who are both total passive aggressive arses.

I really dread coming into work which isnt like me as Im a grafter. My mum is the only person I can talk to and she is being a little superstar. Her advice is life is too short look for another job. Even my little boy caught me in tears last night as Im not sure how to sort this one out. Ive been here for years but know that this cant go on as I feel like Im on the edge of a nervous breakdown

You have my sympathy too . Is it possible to accept a lower paid job at all if that's your only option?

If a job gives you the fear on a Sunday it's time to go, that's my rule of thumb.

Your Mum is right, life is too short to be this unhappy and there is always something out there. Are you at the top of your profession and why d'you think your next job will be lower paid?

It's an arse isnt it when you hate your job....when I worked in London I got to that stage and then yeah, I took a massive pay cut to come and work locally....best thing I ever did :)

Thanks for all the feedback . Ive been here years and think that Im just a bit scared to look for anything else. But soemtimes you just have to feel the fear and do it anyway.

Sugarice-Its mainly cos Ive been here years and worked my way up really and the thought of doing it again is a bit daunting ; 0(

Pickles the pottymouthparrot-Yep I deffo get that feeling ; o(

Cuntflapwankbadger- Im gonna see if I can maybe do less hours but Im not sure thats the answer

You have my sympathy. I career changed before I had DS and was so positive about doing something new, I was going to be monday - friday office based for the first time in my life (I'm 37).

My office is populated by bullies and ego's - one person on the team just does what she wants and intimidates the younger team members. I don't get any hassle - I think as I'm one of the older members and very confident it's obvious I won't stand for it - but it creates a very negative atmosphere. Our boss is very weak, ignores anything that might create work for him. No point going higher as our (female) md is a bully - screams and swears walking around the office, tell's people with kids they have 'wasted their lives', sits in her office shouting out to her PA for not getting her breakfast on time etc. It's bloody miserable.

I'm so disappointed as I worked so hard to career change but I'm dreading my maternity leave ending in December.

If your job is making you so unhappy then look for something else - I know it's easier said than done but you need to make yourself happy

If you've worked your way up that's good isn't it because of your experience and expertise.

I think you are perfectly well able to go out there, and get yourself a new shiny job with nice new colleagues. It's terrifying to think about it (I know, it's what I should be doing too), but it's not that scary in the end, and the worst that can happen is they say no. Please have confidence in yourself and your abilities - you've proved yourself by working your way up anyway - and try for something new that makes you happy. We believe in you!

I've been here 12 years OP and fear has kept me going, that and being a single parent to one DS. I'm also 50 this year.

Fate has intervened now and we're closing at the end of the year, whilst I'm pooing my pants I'm also rather excited.

Life really is too short OP, you have the opportunity to still be in a job though whilst taking your time to look for something else.

Youre all being so lovely and I feel less like crying now. I know only I can sort this one and I will ; 0)

I had a sales job with really good bonuses but my boss was a bullying little turd and I felt constantly paranoid and had dread feelings. I went in holiday and spoiled the first few days crying and fretting and that's when I switched.

Thing is, in a different office you might go even higher and earn more, sometimes you have to take a little step back to move forward and that's what I did!

It's a horrible feeling, once you stop caring you will feel better. I find even looking for a job helps...

Cute - yes it is daunting but it may be the best thing you ever do. I worked at my last company for 7 years, got sort of stuck in a rut, convinced myself that although I was good at my job I just wouldnt be able to do it anywhere else. However, it got to the point when I was so bloody miserable there I thought sod it and started looking for another job. I was lucky enough to get a similar job in a local company, took a pay cut of a few thousand pounds for saved hours per day on travel and the company is so much nicer.

Fast forward 15 years, I am still here, still happy and earning more than I would be if I had stayed in London.

You can do it so dont convince yourself you cant! Good luck! :)

If you have worked your way up, then you have got experience and should not need to go to another employer and start at the bottom again.

Get job hunting. Your mum is 100% right.